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How to answer 'will my ex come back' in an astrology reading

Few questions arrive with more pain behind them. Here is what to read in the chart, how to answer honestly without promising a reunion or selling fear, and what to do when a client is not safe.

Updated 2026-11-05

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Short answer

When a client asks if their ex will come back, read their own chart for what it says about their heart and their next chapter, not the other person's private choices. Start with the Moon, which Parashara calls the mind ³, then the 7th house and the running Venus periods, and see whether the coming period favours repair or a fresh start. Never promise a reunion and never sell a remedy as a way to bring someone back. On Kismo, a client in danger is told to contact emergency services or a crisis line, and you report the chat to the platform.

Read first: The client's Moon, which BPHS 3.12 calls the mind ³
A separation pointer: Rahu in the 7th: separation from a beloved (Phaladeepika 8.26) ²
A quarrel period: Venus-Ketu with Ketu 8th or 12th from Venus: causeless quarrels (BPHS 60) ⁵
Love in the texts: A couple who love each other can marry even without other agreement (Prasna Marga 21.54-55) ¹
No birth times: A question chart, with the names and birth stars of both (Prasna Marga 17) ⁴
Crisis help in India: Tele MANAS: 14416 or 1-800-891-4416, in many languages ⁶

The real question

What is a client really asking when they ask if their ex will come back?

A client asking if their ex will come back is usually asking two things: will this pain end, and was it my fault. The chart can speak to the first; the second needs listening before any planet is named.

Before you open the chart, ask three short questions: when it ended, who ended it, and whether they are in contact now. The answers tell you what kind of reading this is.

A break under a month old: the client needs steadiness more than timing.
Months of no contact: the useful question is what the next period holds for them.
An on-and-off pattern: look for repeating periods in the chart and name the pattern gently.

In the chart

What should you look at in the chart for an ex-back question?

For an ex-back question, look first at the client's Moon, which Parashara calls the mind ³, then at the 7th house and the Venus periods. The Moon shows how the client is carrying the loss; the 7th and Venus show the pattern in their partnerships.

Chart point	Classical reading	How to use it
Moon	The mind (BPHS 3.12) ³	How heavy this period feels, and whether to slow down
Rahu in the 7th	Separation from a beloved (Phaladeepika 8.26) ²	A pattern of distance, one factor among many
Venus-Ketu, Ketu 8th or 12th from Venus or with a malefic	Causeless quarrels, family strain (BPHS 60.70-72) ⁵	Explains a rough phase; ask if it matches
Venus-Ketu, Ketu exalted, in its own sign or with a yogakaraka	Victory, business profit (BPHS 60.67-69) ⁵	The same period can also go well
Benefics in the 7th of a question chart	Read as good (Prasna Marga 17) ⁴	Supports repair if the client wants it

Keep the reading on the client's chart. The ex's chart, if you have it, can show compatibility in broad terms, but it cannot tell you what another person intends, and you should not claim it does.

No birth time

What if the client has no birth time for themselves or their ex?

When birth times are missing, a question chart cast for the moment of the query is the classical tool. Prasna Marga's chapter on marriage questions has the querist give the names and birth stars of both people, and reads the question chart's ascendant for the bride and its 7th for the groom ⁴.

Tell the client you are reading the moment of the question, not a birth chart, so they know what the answer rests on. For the method, see KP horary for yes or no questions.

Reading order

In what order should you give an ex-back reading?

An ex-back reading moves from listening, to the chart, to one practical step the client controls.

Listen: when it ended, who ended it, any contact now.
Read the client's Moon and the running dasha for how heavy this period is ³.
Read the 7th house and Venus for the pattern in their relationships, including any Rahu link to the 7th ².
Check the coming sub-periods: a rough Venus-Ketu phase passes, and the same period can also go well ⁵.
Answer honestly with both paths: what supports repair, and what supports moving on.
Give one step they control, such as a pause from messaging or one calm conversation.
Ask how they are coping before you close.

Honest answers

How do you answer without promising a reunion?

You answer without promising a reunion by reading the client's period and choices, which the chart can describe, rather than the ex's decision, which it cannot. Prasna Marga's matching chapter says a couple who love each other can marry even when nothing else agrees ¹, so love itself is never read as doomed.

Say	Do not say
The next months look like a time for healing, and your chart turns calmer from spring.	He will come back in 40 days.
If you both want to try again, this period supports an honest conversation.	She is under someone's influence.
Your chart shows a pattern of distance in partnerships; that is worth knowing for the next one too.	Someone has done black magic on you.
I cannot tell you what he feels. I can tell you what this period looks like for you.	Only a special ritual can bring him back.

If the client asks the same question in new words, say kindly that the chart's answer has not changed. Paying again will not change it either.

Safety

What do you do if a heartbroken client says they cannot go on?

If a heartbroken client says they cannot go on or may hurt themselves, stop the reading and tell them to contact emergency services or a crisis line now. In India, Tele MANAS, the government's mental health helpline, answers on 14416 or 1-800-891-4416 and supports many languages ⁶.

Stay calm, use their name, and do not argue with how they feel. Never promise the ex will return to calm them down. Then report the chat, as in what to do with a client in crisis.

Example

What does a kind ex-back reading sound like?

A kind ex-back reading is honest about what the chart cannot know and specific about what it can. This is a made-up example, not a real client.

Client
We broke up two months ago. Will he come back? Please tell me yes.
You
I can hear how much this hurts. No chart can tell me what he will decide. Your chart can tell me about your next months, and that I can read honestly.
You
You are in a Venus-Ketu period until April, and Ketu sits 8th from your Venus. The old texts link that mix to quarrels that come from nowhere. Does that fit?
Client
Yes. So after April he comes back?
You
After April your chart looks calmer, and if you both want to talk, it is a better time for it. I cannot promise he will. I would like you to spend these weeks on yourself, not waiting for one message.

On Kismo

What do Kismo's rules mean for an ex-back reading?

Kismo's Astrologer Agreement forbids asking a client for money outside the app, and sharing a phone number, UPI ID or social handle. A lonely client may ask to stay in touch on WhatsApp; the answer is a kind no, and they can start a new session with you from Explore.

A client in danger is told to contact emergency services or a crisis line, and you report it. Remedies are offered only through the app's own Remedies, at prices the app sets, so there is no private ritual to sell.

Returning clients pay you a higher share: 50% of your rate on a second visit and 55% from the third. With a grieving client, that is a reason to be more careful, not less: answer the question once, well, and let them decide when to come back.

Questions

What do astrologers ask about this?

Should I tell a client their ex will come back if the chart looks good?

No. A good period in the client's chart supports a calmer time and an honest conversation, but it cannot decide another person's choice. Say what the period supports and leave the outcome open.

Is it wrong to read the ex's chart?

Reading it for broad compatibility is fine if the client has the details, but treat it as private. Do not claim to know what the ex feels, plans or is doing, and do not pass on details from their chart as fact.

Does Rahu in the 7th mean the ex is gone for good?

No. Phaladeepika reads Rahu in the 7th as separation from a beloved ², which describes a pattern of distance, not a final verdict. Weigh it with the Moon, Venus and the running periods before saying anything.

Can I offer a remedy to bring an ex back on Kismo?

No remedy should be offered as a way to make someone return, because no one can promise that. On Kismo remedies go only through the app's own Remedies, at the app's prices, and never under pressure.

What if the client wants to talk about the ex every day?

Let them come back if they choose, but do not stretch the reading or give a new answer each time. Point gently to friends, family or a counsellor, and if they sound unsafe, give a crisis line such as Tele MANAS on 14416 ⁶.

What does Prasna Marga say about marrying for love?

Its chapter on marriage compatibility says that if a couple love each other, they can marry even without agreement in other ways, and that one who sincerely loves a girl should marry her ¹. Use it to reassure, not to promise.

How do I keep an ex-back client from depending on me on Kismo?

Answer fully in one session and do not hint that more minutes will change the chart. The share on Kismo rises on return visits, which is exactly why the choice to return should stay with the client.

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