Marriage proposals keep getting rejected: talk to an astrologer about what your chart shows
When rishta after rishta stops at the same step, a chart reading can look at timing while you look at the filters around you.
On an iPhone, log in on kismo.app in your browser.
- 18,000+ verified astrologers
- From ₹15 a minute
- 5 free minutes on your first session
- Chat or call, in 16+ languages
- Updated
Your astrologer
Online · chat
This year six rishtas came and every one stopped, some after the horoscope match and some after we met. My parents think something is wrong with my kundli. Can you check?
That sounds tiring for the whole family. Please share your birth details and tell me at which step each proposal stopped. I can check your 7th house and dasha, and re-check the matches, before we talk about what the chart shows.
Short answer
When marriage proposals keep getting rejected, a Vedic astrologer checks the 7th house and its lord, the dasha you are running and the kundli match that stopped each talk. Many rejections come from filters like caste, income or city rather than anything in you or your chart. You can talk this through with a verified Vedic astrologer on Kismo, by chat or call, online from anywhere in India or abroad.
What are the key facts about delayed marriage?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| What it is | Proposals, rishtas or matches that keep stopping before an engagement |
| Who it applies to | Anyone in an arranged or matrimony-site search, and parents searching for a son or daughter |
| What an astrologer checks | 7th house and lord, malefic links, the running dasha, suitable Moon signs in a partner, and the kundli match itself |
| What softens it | A supportive dasha starting, benefic strength in the 7th, a waxing Moon |
| What to bring | Your birth details, and at which step each proposal stopped |
| Session on Kismo | First session with 5 free minutes, then from ₹15 a minute (October 2026); works online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when marriage proposals keep falling through?
- An astrologer checks the 7th house and its lord for strength and malefic links. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra (18.16) reads strain on marriage matters when either one joins a malefic, more so when it lacks strength 5.
- An astrologer checks which Moon signs suit you in a partner. Phaladeepika (10.11) looks for a spouse's Moon sign in trine to the signs or navamsas of your 1st and 7th lords, or in the sign with the most benefic points in your Moon's ashtakavarga 6.
- An astrologer checks which dasha is running and when the next one begins, since a change of period can change how the coming year reads.
- An astrologer re-checks the kundli match when talks stop at the horoscope step, and explains what the score does and does not mean.
- An astrologer asks at which step each proposal stopped, because a pattern in your search can matter as much as a pattern in your chart.
What changes the answer when proposals keep getting rejected?
- The step where talks stop: the first call, the horoscope match, the family meeting or the final yes.
- Who says no: the other side, your side, or both. The reading differs for each.
- Whether a new dasha starts soon, which can shift the reading of the coming year.
- Whether a manglik result or a low guna score is the stated reason, which the manglik-dosha and low-guna-score pages cover.
- Your age and gender, covered on the after-30, for-girls and for-boys pages.
How are marriages arranged in India today, and why do matches fall through?
Caste is still the first filter in most Indian marriage searches. Only about 5% of marriages in India cross caste lines 3. In a 2021 national survey, 64% of Indians said it is very important to stop women in their community marrying into another caste, and 62% said the same about men 2.
Matrimony searches show the same pattern at scale. A study of matrimonial newspaper ads found a very strong preference for marrying within caste, shared by both sides 1. In 313,308 profiles on a major matrimony site, 68.74% of India-based profiles were written by the person, and these were more open to intercaste marriage than family-written ones (23.94% vs 20.82%) 3.
| What the Jeevansathi report found (February 2026) | Then | Now |
|---|---|---|
| Users who set caste as a strict preference | 91% (2016) | 54% 4 |
| Profiles managed by family | 33% (2016) | 23% 4 |
| Users looking to remarry | 11% (2016) | 16% (2025) 4 |
| Median marriage age of singles on the site | 27 | 29 4 |
| Men comfortable marrying a woman who earns more | - | 87% 4 |
| Women comfortable marrying a man who earns less | - | 15% 4 |
A Kismo astrologer can read why timing looks slow, re-check a kundli match that ended talks, and point to periods that look more supportive. An astrologer cannot change another family's filters, tell you why a particular family said no, or replace an honest talk with your parents. If rejection is wearing you down, a counsellor can help too.
What should you check before saying yes to the next proposal?
- Check whether your filters (caste, city, income, height) are narrower than you really need.
- Check who writes and answers on your profile, you or your family, and whether it sounds like you.
- Note the step where the last few talks stopped. A pattern points to the part worth changing.
- If talks stop at the horoscope step, ask an astrologer to re-check the match and explain the reason.
- Ask whether the coming months fall in a period your astrologer sees as more supportive.
- Say yes only when you want to, not to end the pressure.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: One planet alone makes marriage proposals fail.
Phaladeepika (10.15) reads trouble for marriage only when several conditions meet: a weak, debilitated, combust or malefic-aspected 7th lord together with malefics in or aspecting the 7th house 6.
Belief: A difficult 7th house can never get better.
In R. Santhanam's notes on Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra (18.18), a waxing Moon can hold back the difficulty described in that verse and improve the situation 5.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about delayed marriage?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Is there anything in my 7th house or its lord that slows proposals down?
- Which dasha am I in, and does it touch my 7th house?
- Can you re-check the kundli match that stopped my last proposal?
- Which Moon signs suit my chart in a partner?
- What can I change in my search while the timing is slow?
What should I know before booking a session about delayed marriage?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
What else do people ask an astrologer about?
How does Kismo compare with other apps?
Questions people ask
Why do my marriage proposals keep getting rejected?
Marriage proposals often get rejected because of filters like caste, income, city, age or a horoscope score, not because something is wrong with you. Astrologers also look at the 7th house, its lord and the dasha you are running for timing. Writing down the step where each proposal stopped usually shows whether the pattern sits in the search, in the chart or in both.
Is getting rejected again and again in arranged marriage normal?
Yes. Repeated rejection is a very common part of arranged marriage searches, because both families filter hard and say no quickly. A no usually says more about a list of preferences than about your value. It still hurts, and it is fine to take a break between proposals. If the stress affects your sleep or mood, talking to a counsellor can help.
How should I handle rejection in arranged marriage without losing confidence?
Treat each rejection as information about fit, not as a verdict on you. Keep a short note of why talks stopped, share the search with someone you trust, and give yourself days off from profiles. An astrologer can explain timing in your chart, but your confidence does not depend on it. A counsellor is the right person if the hurt stays.
Can astrology tell why a rishta broke at the last moment?
Astrology cannot tell you what another family decided or why. An astrologer can read whether your current dasha and transits look slow or supportive for marriage, and can re-check the kundli match if that was the stated reason. For the other family's reasons, an honest conversation through the person who brought the proposal is the more reliable route.
Does a low guna score cause repeated marriage rejections?
A low guna score can end a proposal when a family treats the number as a cut-off, but it is a score for one pair of charts, not a mark on you. A different match gives a different score. Many astrologers also weigh other factors before calling a match weak. The low-guna-score pages explain what each score range means.
Can I ask an astrologer about my rejected proposals on Kismo without paying first?
Yes. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Your first session carries 5 free minutes and needs no card. After that, each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call from ₹15 a minute (October 2026), and only the minutes you use are charged.
An astrologer says my rejections come from black magic and asks for money. Is it a scam?
Treat it as a red flag. Claims of black magic followed by a demand for money, especially paid outside the app or under time pressure, are a common pressure tactic. Get a second opinion before paying for anything. On Kismo, asking for money outside the app counts as misconduct, and a person handles the complaint.
Should I change my birth time on my biodata to get more matches?
No. Changing your birth time gives the other family a chart that is not yours, so any match they run is meaningless and trust breaks if it comes out. If your birth time is uncertain, an astrologer can rectify it from past events. It is better to widen your filters or rewrite your profile than to change the chart.
Talk to an astrologer about delayed marriage
Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
On an iPhone, log in on kismo.app in your browser.
Where do these facts come from?
- Marry for What? Caste and Mate Selection in Modern India (NBER Working Paper 14958), National Bureau of Economic Research (Banerjee, Duflo, Ghatak and Lafortune, 2009). Accessed .
- Religion in India: Tolerance and Segregation, chapter 3: Attitudes about caste, Pew Research Center, 29 June 2021. Accessed .
- Smart, Responsible, and Upper Caste Only: Measuring Caste Attitudes through Large-Scale Analysis of Matrimonial Profiles, Proceedings of ICWSM 2019, AAAI (Rajadesingan, Mahalingam and Jurgens). Accessed .
- Study Shows 87% Men Are Okay With Marrying Women Earning More Than Them, 16% Seeking Second Marriage, Free Press Journal, 17 February 2026. Accessed .
- Brihat Parasara Hora Sastra, Vol. 1, chapter 18 (effects of the seventh house), tr. R. Santhanam, Ranjan Publications, 1992 (Internet Archive copy). Accessed .
- Phaladeepika of Mantreswara, chapter 10 (Kalatra Bhava), tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 2nd edition, 1950 (Internet Archive copy). Accessed .
