Will he commit? Talk to an astrologer about where your relationship is going
Whether he commits is his decision, and a reading looks at your 7th house, its lord and your timing to help you see where you stand.
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We have been together three years. He says he loves me but changes the topic whenever I talk about marriage. Will he commit?
Three years is a long time to wait for clarity. Please share your birth details, and his if he has given them. I will read both 7th houses and the dashas you are each running, and then we can talk about what you need.
Short answer
No astrologer can promise that he will commit, because that choice is his. In Vedic astrology, many astrologers read commitment from your 7th house, its lord, Venus and the dasha you are in, and from his chart if you have it. That shows timing and fit, while his actions show intent. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read both charts by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about will he commit?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The question | Whether a partner is ready for a committed relationship or marriage |
| Who asks it | Anyone in a relationship, often after months or years together; it applies to any partner, not only a man |
| What an astrologer checks | Your 7th house and its lord, Venus, the 2nd house, then his chart and the dashas of both |
| What a reading cannot do | Decide his choice, or replace an honest talk between you |
| What to bring | Your birth date, time and place; his too, if he has shared them |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, first session with 5 free minutes, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check to see if he will commit?
- The strength of the 7th lord. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 6, reads a strong, benefic 7th lord as giving a good-natured partner 2.
- Benefics on the 2nd and 7th houses. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 7, reads benefics aspecting or occupying them as a couple who enjoy comforts together 2.
- Venus with the 5th and 7th lords. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 9, links an even-sign 7th house, its lord and Venus, with strong 5th and 7th lords, to a married life with children 2.
- His chart, if you have it with his consent. Astrologers read the same houses in his chart, then the match between the two.
- The dashas you are both running. A partner in a restless or career-focused period may delay big decisions, which astrologers read for timing, not for love.
Which situation is yours?
- Will He Propose? Ask an Astrologer About Timing
When the question is when or whether he will propose, astrologers lean on dasha and transit timing in both charts.
- He Is Afraid of Commitment: Ask an Astrologer
When he seems afraid of commitment, the reading looks at his Venus, Saturn and 7th house, and at whether fear or lack of interest is the issue.
- He Keeps Delaying Marriage Talk: Ask an Astrologer
When marriage talk keeps getting pushed back, the reading weighs career periods and family timing against how long you are willing to wait.
At what age do most Indian men marry?
Most Indian men marry by their mid-twenties. Half of men aged 25 to 49 were married by 24.9 years, in the National Family Health Survey 2019-21 5.
| Measure, NFHS-5 (2019-21) | Women | Men |
|---|---|---|
| Median age at first marriage, age 25-49 | 18.8 years | 24.9 years 5 |
| Never married, age 15-49 | 24% | 39% 5 |
| Never married by age 45-49 | 1% | 3% 5 |
Marriage is nearly universal in India, the same survey says 5. So when a man in his late twenties or thirties avoids the topic, it often reflects his own timing or doubts more than a social norm.
Which classical texts describe the partner and marriage in a woman's chart?
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra gives a whole chapter to women's charts, chapter 80. Verse 4 says the husband's fortune and marital happiness are read from the 7th house 1.
Verses 22 to 25 describe the husband by the planet or sign in her 7th house 1. Verse 35 reads an auspicious navamsha on the 7th as being beloved of the husband 1.
| Planet or sign in her 7th house | How BPHS 80.22-25 describes the husband |
|---|---|
| Jupiter | Virtuous 1 |
| Venus | Handsome and fortunate 1 |
| Mars | Lustful and short-tempered 1 |
| Saturn | Old and foolish 1 |
| Cancer on the 7th | Charming and gentle 1 |
For a man's chart, the same text judges the wife from the 7th house and from the 7th counted from Venus 34. Chapter 32 names a significator only for the wife 3. Reading Jupiter as the husband's significator in a woman's chart is a later convention many astrologers follow.
None of these verses speaks of commitment in the modern sense. Astrologers apply them to the question by reading how stable and happy a partnership looks in each chart.
How often do relationships end before marriage?
Many unmarried relationships end within two years. In a US study of 1,295 unmarried adults aged 18 to 35, 36.5% had at least one breakup over 20 months 6.
Plans for the future made the end harder. In the same study, couples who lived together or had plans to marry saw a larger fall in life satisfaction after a breakup 6.
That is why the question of commitment matters early. Asking it after years of waiting raises the cost of the answer, whichever way it goes.
For distress, the study found no single relationship feature that changed how much it rose 6. For life satisfaction, the shared plans were what made the difference 6.
Which periods do astrologers link to marriage timing?
Marriage timing is read from dashas and transits in Phaladeepika chapter 10. Astrologers use these periods to say when a partnership is more likely to move, not whether a person will choose it.
| Period | What Phaladeepika chapter 10 says | Sloka |
|---|---|---|
| Dasha of a 7th-house planet | Marriage in the dasha of a planet in, aspecting or owning the 7th house | 13 2 |
| Lagna lord transit | When the lord of the ascendant transits the sign of the 7th house | 13 2 |
| Venus or 7th lord transit | When Venus or the 7th lord passes a sign in trine to the lagna lord's sign or navamsha | 12 2 |
| Jupiter transit with Venus or Moon dasha | Jupiter in trine to the 7th lord's sign or navamsha, in the dasha of the stronger of Venus and the Moon | 14 2 |
What happens when you ask an astrologer if he will commit?
A will he commit consultation usually moves from your chart to his and then to timing. This is an example of how many astrologers structure it, not a real client's chat.
- You share your birth details, his if he has given them, and how long you have been together.
- The astrologer reads your 7th house, its lord and Venus.
- If you have his details, the astrologer reads the same houses in his chart and the match between you.
- The astrologer checks the dashas and transits you are both in for timing.
- You talk about what the reading suggests and what you want to say to him.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If he really loved me, timing would not matter.
Classical texts treat timing as its own question. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 13, ties marriage to the dasha of a planet in, aspecting or owning the 7th house 2.
Belief: Most men in India stay single into their late thirties.
Only 3% of men aged 45 to 49 had never married in NFHS-5, and half of men aged 25 to 49 married by 24.9 years 5.
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How does a consultation on Kismo work?
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- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What does my 7th house and its lord say about commitment?
- Which dasha am I in, and is it linked to marriage?
- If I share his birth details, what does his 7th house show?
- Is this a time to wait, to talk to him, or to think about my own path?
- Which transits in the next year do you link to partnership?
What should I know before booking a session about will he commit?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
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| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
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How do I know if he will commit to me?
You know he may commit mainly from what he does: he includes you in plans, introduces you to family and talks about a shared future without being pushed. A reading can add your timing and, with his details, how your charts match. If he avoids the topic for years, that silence is also an answer worth taking seriously.
Can astrology tell if my boyfriend will marry me?
Astrology cannot tell for certain if your boyfriend will marry you, because that is his choice. Many astrologers read both 7th houses, Venus and the dashas you are running, and compare the charts for compatibility. That shows timing and fit. An honest conversation with him tells you about his intent.
Which house in my kundli shows commitment in a relationship?
The 7th house is the main house for marriage and committed partnership in Vedic astrology. Astrologers also look at its lord, Venus, the 2nd house for family life and, in a woman's chart, the 8th house. The 5th house is often read for romance, so its link to the 7th is checked too.
Will he commit if I walk away?
Walking away sometimes makes a partner rethink, but it often does not, and it should not be used as a test. If you leave, leave because the relationship does not give you what you need. A reading can help you think about timing, while the choice to stay or go is yours.
Do guys pull away before they commit?
Some people do pull back before a big step, often from fear of losing freedom or of getting it wrong. Others pull away because they do not want the step at all. You cannot tell which from a chart alone, so ask him directly and watch whether his actions come back towards you.
Does Saturn in the 7th house mean my partner will delay marriage?
Saturn in the 7th house is often read by astrologers as delay or a later, more serious marriage, not as no marriage. Its sign, aspects and the dasha running matter as much as the placement. Ask your astrologer whether Saturn is in your chart or his, and what softens it, before drawing any conclusion.
What are the signs he is not ready to commit?
Common signs he is not ready to commit are vague answers about the future, keeping you apart from family and friends, and plans that never get a date. None of these proves he never will. Name what you need, give a fair time, and notice whether his actions change.
What does a will he commit reading cost on Kismo?
A will he commit reading on Kismo is billed at the astrologer's per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, for chat or call. The first session has 5 free minutes with no card needed. You top up a wallet from ₹100, and only the minutes you use are charged.
Is a puja to make him commit safe to pay for?
No, treat a puja or ritual sold to make him commit as a red flag. Nobody can bind another person's choice, and such offers often come with pressure to pay more. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you or asks for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Where can I ask an astrologer if he will commit, online?
You can ask an astrologer whether he will commit on Kismo, by chat or call, from anywhere in India or abroad. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Every astrologer passes a qualification review, a panel interview, live audits and a 30-day probation.
Talk to an astrologer about will he commit
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 80 (women's horoscopes), verses 4, 22 to 25 and 35, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 10: the 7th house (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 32 (karakas), verse 23, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11 (judgement of houses), verse 8, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- National Family Health Survey (NFHS-5), 2019-21: India, chapter 6 (marriage), International Institute for Population Sciences and Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, via The DHS Program. Accessed .
- Breaking up is hard to do: the impact of unmarried relationship dissolution on mental health and life satisfaction (Rhoades et al., Journal of Family Psychology, 2011), PubMed Central, US National Library of Medicine. Accessed .
