Talk to an astrologer about one-sided love
One-sided love is a reading of your own chart and timing, because no chart can decide what another person feels.
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I have loved someone for two years and they only see me as a friend. Is there any point in waiting, or should I let go?
Please share your birth date, time and place. I will look at your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and your current dasha. Your chart shows your side and your timing; it cannot decide what the other person feels.
Short answer
One-sided love, also called ektarfa pyaar or unrequited love, is when you love someone who does not love you back. In Vedic astrology, many astrologers read it from the 5th and 7th houses, Venus and the Moon in your own chart. The reading covers your feelings, patterns and timing, not the other person's choice. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read it by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about one-sided love?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| What it is | Loving someone who does not return the feeling, or has not said so; ektarfa pyaar in Hindi |
| How common it is | About four times as common as equal love over two years, in one US study 5 |
| What an astrologer checks | Your 5th and 7th houses, Venus, the Moon and the current dasha |
| What a chart cannot do | Decide the other person's feelings or change their choice |
| Other methods used | Prashna (a chart for the moment you ask) and tarot, each with clear limits |
| What to bring | Your date, exact time and place of birth; theirs only if they shared it with you |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check for one-sided love?
- The 5th house of your chart. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.6 links it to the intellect, learning and mantras, and many modern astrologers read romance from it too 1.
- The 7th house of your chart. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.8 names the spouse as its first matter, so astrologers read committed partnership from it 1.
- Venus and the 7th house counted from Venus. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.23 judges the wife from the 7th house counted from Venus 3.
- The Moon. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.12 calls the Moon the mind, so astrologers read the strength of your longing and your mood from it 2.
- The link between the 5th and 7th lords. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 9, reads strong 5th and 7th lords with the 7th house and Venus as a blessed married life 7.
- Your current dasha and transits. Astrologers read these for timing, which is about when your own feelings or circumstances may shift.
Which situation is yours?
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When it is time to let go, the reading shifts from the other person to your own healing, routines and the next phase of your chart.
Which houses and planets do classical texts link to love?
No classical verse names one-sided love as a yoga. Astrologers build the reading from older house and planet meanings. Those meanings come mostly from Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.6 gives the 5th house talismans, mantras, learning, intellect and children 1. Romance is not in that list. Linking the 5th house to love affairs is a later reading by modern astrologers.
The same chapter, verse 8, gives the 7th house the spouse, journeys and trade 1. Chapter 32, verse 23, adds a second reference point: the wife is judged from the 7th counted from Venus 3. Chapter 3, verse 12, names the Moon as the mind 2.
| Text and verse | What it says | How astrologers use it for one-sided love |
|---|---|---|
| BPHS 11.6 1 | 5th house: mantras, learning, intellect, children | Modern practice adds romance and attraction |
| BPHS 11.8 1 | 7th house: the spouse, journeys, trade | Whether a feeling may become a partnership |
| BPHS 32.23 3 | Wife judged from the 7th from Venus | Venus as a second point for love and partners |
| BPHS 3.12 2 | The Moon is the mind | How strongly the longing pulls at your mood |
| Phaladeepika 10.9 7 | 7th house, its lord and Venus with strong 5th and 7th lords | The 5th to 7th link, from romance to marriage |
Prashna, or horary astrology, is a separate method. Its main Kerala text, the Prasna Marga, is a 17th-century Sanskrit work translated by B. V. Raman 4. Many astrologers use prashna for a single question when birth details are missing.
How many people go through one-sided love?
One-sided love is very common, more common than mutual love. A 2013 study in SAGE Open found it about four times as frequent as equal love over two years 5.
The same study sorted it into five types 5. They run from a crush on someone out of reach to an unequal relationship where one partner loves more.
| Type of one-sided love | What it looks like |
|---|---|
| Crush on someone unavailable | A celebrity, a teacher, someone already married 5 |
| Crush on someone nearby | A classmate or colleague you have not approached 5 |
| Pursuing a love interest | You have shown interest and they have not returned it 5 |
| Longing for a former partner | You still love someone after it ended 5 |
| Unequal relationship | You are together, but one loves more 5 |
One-sided love also scored lower than mutual love on passion and commitment, and higher on turmoil 5. The authors call it a weaker form of romantic love, not a substitute for it.
In India, the family often decides who a person marries, which shapes how love is felt and said. In the India Human Development Survey 2011-12, only about 5% of women chose their husband without family input 6. Nearly 65% met their husband only at or around the wedding 6.
Is one-sided love something to ask an astrologer about?
One-sided love is worth a reading when you want to understand your own pattern or timing. It is not the right question if you want someone to change their mind. These points help you decide.
- Ask about yourself: why you keep falling for people who are not available, and what your chart says about your timing.
- Ask about a decision: whether to say how you feel, wait, or let go, and what a reading suggests for each.
- Do not ask anyone to make a person love you. No honest astrologer offers that, and their choice stays theirs.
- If the other person has said no, blocked you or moved on, the reading is about your path from here.
- If the longing is affecting your sleep, food or work for weeks, talk to a counsellor as well.
What happens in a one-sided love consultation?
A one-sided love consultation usually starts with your birth details and ends with your options. This is an example of how many astrologers structure it, not a real client's chat.
- The astrologer asks for your date, time and place of birth, and what you want to know.
- The astrologer reads your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and the Moon.
- The astrologer checks your current dasha and transits for timing.
- If the question is a single yes or no, some astrologers cast a prashna chart or draw tarot cards as well.
- The astrologer explains what the reading suggests for you, and what it cannot say about the other person.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: One-sided love is rare, so something must be wrong with me.
One-sided love was about four times as common as mutual love over two years in the SAGE Open study 5. Most people go through it.
Belief: The classical texts call the 5th house the house of love.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.6 lists mantras, learning, intellect and children for the 5th house, not romance 1. The love reading is a modern extension.
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How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What do my 5th and 7th houses and Venus say about how I love?
- Why do I keep falling for people who do not feel the same?
- What does my current dasha suggest about timing in love?
- Should I say how I feel, wait, or let go, according to my chart?
- Can a prashna chart help with my question if I do not know my birth time?
What should I know before booking a session about one-sided love?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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What is one-sided love in simple words?
One-sided love is loving someone who does not love you back, or who has not said so. In Hindi it is often called ektarfa pyaar. It can be a crush you never shared, feelings for a friend, or a relationship where one person loves more. It is very common and says nothing bad about you as a person.
Does one-sided love ever work out?
Sometimes one-sided love turns mutual, and often it does not. Research finds that many couples start as friends, so feelings can grow over time. Yet the other person's choice is theirs alone. An astrologer can read your own chart and timing, and help you decide whether to wait, speak or move on.
Can astrology tell me if my one-sided love will become two-sided?
No reading can promise that one-sided love becomes mutual, because another person's feelings are not set by your chart. In Vedic astrology, many astrologers read your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and dasha for your side and your timing. With both charts, they can compare compatibility, but the other person still decides.
Which planet causes one-sided love in a kundli?
No single planet causes one-sided love in Vedic astrology. Many astrologers look at Venus, the Moon, and the lords of the 5th and 7th houses together. A weak or afflicted Venus, or a 5th lord not linked to the 7th, is often read as love that stays unspoken. Ask your astrologer which placement they mean and why.
Is tarot or a birth chart better for a one-sided love question?
A birth chart and tarot answer different things. A birth chart reads your long-term patterns and timing from fixed placements. Tarot reflects the question at the moment you ask it and is often used for a short yes or no. Neither can decide what another person feels, so treat both as reflection, not a verdict.
How much does a one-sided love reading cost on Kismo?
A one-sided love reading on Kismo costs the astrologer's per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute. Your first session has 5 free minutes and needs no card. You top up a wallet with at least ₹100, and only the minutes you use are charged.
An astrologer offered vashikaran to make my crush love me. Is that safe?
No, treat any offer of vashikaran, black magic or a ritual to make someone love you as a red flag. Nobody can control another person's feelings, and such offers are often a way to take money. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, pressure or asking for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Where can I talk to an astrologer about one-sided love online?
You can talk to an astrologer about one-sided love on Kismo, by chat or call. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. It works online from anywhere in India and abroad, and the average first reply comes in 9 seconds.
Talk to an astrologer about one-sided love
Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11 (judgement of houses), verses 6 and 8, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 3 (planets), verse 12, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 32 (karakas), verse 23, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Prasna marga: English translation, with original text in Devanagari, and notes (B. V. Raman, Motilal Banarsidass), Wellcome Collection. Accessed .
- The prevalence and nature of unrequited love (Bringle, Winnick and Rydell), SAGE Open 3(2), 2013, IDEAS / RePEc. Accessed .
- How much agency do Indian women have in marriage choices? (Bipasa Banerjee, IHDS 2011-12), National Council of Applied Economic Research. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 10: the 7th house (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
