Will my ex come back? Talk to an astrologer about getting your ex back
Whether an ex comes back is their own choice; an astrologer reads your chart for your patterns in love and the timing of the period you are in.
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We broke up two months ago and I still think about him every day. Is there any chance we get back together?
I can look at this with you. Please share your birth date, exact time and place. I start with your 7th house, Venus and your current dasha, and tell you plainly what they show about this period for you.
Short answer
No astrologer can promise your ex's return, because coming back is the other person's choice. What a Vedic astrologer can read is your own chart: the 7th house, Venus and the dasha you are running, which many astrologers use for timing in love. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere in India and abroad.
What are the key facts about getting an ex back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| What people ask | Will my ex come back, will we get back together, ex wapas aayega kya, should I wait for him or her |
| What an astrologer reads | Your 7th house and its lord, Venus, and the dasha and antardasha you are running now |
| What no reading can answer | The other person's free choice; a block, a clear no or a new partner stands |
| Other methods used | Prashna, a chart for the moment you ask, and tarot, often read beside the birth chart |
| What to bring | Your date, exact time and place of birth; the dates you met and broke up help too |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when you ask if your ex will come back?
- The 7th house lord. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.1 reads a 7th lord in its own or exaltation sign as full happiness in marriage 2.
- The strength of that lord. Verse 18.4 of the same chapter links a strong 7th lord, or one with benefic influence, to happiness and respect 2.
- Venus. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.23 names Venus, through the 7th house, as the significator of the wife 1. Many astrologers read Venus for love in any chart.
- The dasha you are running. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 46.3 calls Vimshottari the principal dasha system 3, and most astrologers time love questions by it.
- Afflictions to the 7th house. Verse 18.16 reads a weak 7th house or lord hurt by malefics as loss of the spouse 2. Astrologers today often read it as a pattern of separations.
- Your question itself, when the birth time is unknown. Many astrologers then cast a prashna chart for the moment you ask.
Which situation is yours?
- Just Broke Up? Will My Ex Come Back: Astrologer
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Months or years later, the dasha has usually changed, so the astrologer reads the new period rather than the old one.
- Ex-Husband or Wife Back After Divorce? Astrologer
After a divorce the question carries legal, family and money weight, and the reading looks at marriage houses with a lawyer's advice alongside.
- Venus Retrograde and Your Ex: 2026-2028 Dates
During Venus retrograde, the astrologer separates what the transit is said to bring up from what your own chart shows.
- No Contact With My Ex: Will It Work? Astrologer
During no contact, the reading is about using the silence for yourself and what your period shows, not about breaking it.
- My Ex Blocked Me: Talk to an Astrologer Online
When an ex has blocked you, their choice stands; the reading turns to your own path and timing.
- My Ex Has a New Partner: Ask an Astrologer
When your ex has a new partner, the reading turns from them to you, because that relationship is theirs to keep.
- Ex Cheated and Wants Me Back: Ask an Astrologer
After cheating, the reading looks at trust and repeated patterns, and a counsellor helps with the rest.
- My Ex Got Engaged: Talk to an Astrologer
Once he is engaged, his commitment stands; the reading is about your own grief, timing and next step.
- My Ex Wants to Be Friends: Ask an Astrologer
When an ex wants to stay friends, the astrologer reads whether that period suits closeness or distance for you.
- Ex Lives Abroad: Talk to an Astrologer Online
When an ex lives abroad, astrologers add the houses of distance and travel to the usual love reading.
- My Ex Ghosted Me: Talk to an Astrologer
After being ghosted, the reading is about closure without an answer from them, and what your chart shows next.
Do classical texts say anything about an ex coming back?
Classical texts have no chapter on an ex coming back. Astrologers adapt rules written for marriage and the spouse, which is why two astrologers can read the same chart differently.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.15 names a darakaraka, the spouse significator, from the order of planets by degree 1. Some astrologers read this planet for the person you bond with, alongside Venus.
The same text reads a hard combination for married life in 18.18: the Moon in the 7th house, the 7th lord in the 12th and a weak Venus 2. Astrologers look for such patterns before talking about any one person.
Prashna is the second root. The Monier-Williams Sanskrit dictionary defines praśna as an astrological inquiry into the future 4. In practice it is a chart cast for the moment a question is asked, used when the birth time is unknown.
| Method | What it reads for an ex question | Where it comes from |
|---|---|---|
| Darakaraka | The planet many astrologers read for the bonded partner | Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.15 1 |
| 7th house combinations | Patterns of separation or harmony in married life | Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.18 2 |
| Prashna | One question, read from the moment it is asked | Monier-Williams dictionary entry 4 |
| Tarot | Your feelings and options now, with no timing | A card practice, not part of the Sanskrit texts |
How often do couples really get back together after a breakup?
Getting back together after a breakup is common in research. A study of nearly 800 people aged 17 to 24 in Ohio found about 44% of those in a recent relationship had at least one reconciliation 5.
In the same study, 53% of those who reconciled also reported sex with that ex 5. The authors called this pattern relationship churning.
Who decides differs between the breakup and the return. René Dailey's review finds most breakups are started by one partner, but about half of renewals are mutual 6. On-off relationships last as long as, or longer than, relationships that never break up 6.
In India, love happens in the shadow of family choice. In the India Human Development Survey 2011-12, about 5% of women chose their husband without family input, while 55% had some say 7.
Nearly 65% of women in that survey met their husband only at or around the wedding 7. So an ex question in India often carries a second one: will the families accept us?
Is a birth chart, prashna or tarot better for an ex-back question?
A birth chart, prashna and tarot answer different parts of an ex-back question. Many astrologers use more than one in the same session.
| Method | What it can answer | What it cannot answer | What you need |
|---|---|---|---|
| Vedic birth chart | Your patterns in love and the period you are in | What your ex is thinking or deciding | Date, exact time and place of birth |
| Prashna (horary) | One clear question asked at one moment | A list of questions, or the same one asked daily | Only the question and its time |
| Tarot | How you feel and the choices in front of you | Dates, and anyone else's choices | Nothing in advance |
| Numerology | Themes linked to your name and birth date | Timing of a return | Full name and birth date |
No method reads another person's free will. A reading that claims to know your ex's exact feelings or date of return is going past what any of these practices claims for itself.
Many astrologers start with the birth chart because it shows your own patterns, then add prashna for one sharp question. Tarot is often used last, to help you talk through what you feel before deciding anything.
What happens in an ex-back consultation?
An ex-back consultation usually moves from your story to your chart and ends with what is in your hands. This is an example of how many astrologers structure it, not a real client's chat.
- You share your birth details and a short story: how long you were together, who ended it, and whether you are in contact.
- The astrologer reads your 7th house, its lord and Venus, and names the dasha and antardasha running now.
- If the birth time is unknown, or the question is narrow, the astrologer may cast a prashna chart or draw tarot cards.
- The astrologer explains what the chart shows about your own patterns and timing, and says plainly what it cannot show.
- You ask follow-up questions about the next months, about moving on, or about a second opinion.
On Kismo, after a session you are suggested up to three other astrologers if you want a second opinion.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: A strong enough ritual can bring a particular ex back.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra chapter 18 describes the spouse in general terms and names no rite to bring back a chosen person 2. Rituals sold as vashikaran ignore the other person's consent.
Belief: Getting back together means the problem is solved.
Research by René Dailey at the University of Texas found that approval from family and friends drops with each reconciliation 8. Many astrologers ask what has changed before reading a return as good news.
Belief: If the 7th house looks hard, you can never have a lasting relationship.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.4 also reads a strong 7th lord, or one with benefic influence, as happiness and respect 2, so astrologers weigh the whole house, not one hard sign.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about getting an ex back?
- Jyothsna Gosala
Tarot Reading, Life Coach · 1 yrs
English, Telugu, Hindi
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How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Which planet rules my 7th house, and how strong is it?
- Which dasha and antardasha am I running, and when do they change?
- What does Venus show about how I love and how I leave?
- Do you see a repeated pattern of separations in my chart?
- Would a prashna chart help for my exact question?
- What can I do in the next few months that is in my own hands?
What should I know before booking a session about getting an ex back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
What else do people ask an astrologer about?
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Questions people ask
Will my ex come back, and can my birth chart tell?
No, a birth chart cannot tell you what another person decides. What it can show, in many astrologers' reading, is your own pattern in love and the period you are in, through the 7th house, Venus and your dasha. Some periods are read as favourable for reconnecting, others for closure. Treat any reading as one input, not a promise.
When will my ex come back, according to astrology?
No reliable method gives an exact date for another person's message. Astrologers time periods, usually by the dasha and major transits, which span weeks or months. A reading that names a precise day for your ex to call is claiming more than the method holds. Use the timing to plan your own steps instead.
Which house in the kundli shows getting back with an ex?
The 7th house is the one most astrologers read, together with its lord and Venus. The 7th is the house of partnership and marriage in Vedic astrology. Some astrologers also look at the darakaraka, the spouse significator, and at the dasha running now. No single house answers it alone.
Do I need my ex's birth details for the reading?
No, your own birth details are enough to start. Your chart shows your side: your patterns, your period and your choices. If you have your ex's date, time and place of birth, an astrologer can also compare the two charts. Never pressure someone for their details or take them without asking.
Can a tarot reading tell me if my ex still loves me?
A tarot reading cannot see into another person's heart, though many readers use the cards to help you name what you feel and what you hope for. That can be useful when you are confused. Treat any card about your ex's feelings as a reflection of your own question, not as news about them.
Is it a bad sign that my ex and I keep breaking up and getting back together?
Repeated breakups are common, and research finds they often come with lower satisfaction and more doubt about commitment. An astrologer can read your chart for the pattern behind them. A counsellor can help you both look at why it keeps happening. Both are worth more than guessing alone.
How much does an ex-back reading cost on Kismo?
An ex-back reading on Kismo costs the astrologer's own per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, the same for chat and call. Your first session has 5 free minutes with no card needed. You top up a wallet from ₹100, and only the minutes you use are charged; the rest stays for later.
An astrologer offered vashikaran to bring my ex back. Is that a red flag?
Yes, an offer of vashikaran or any ritual to control another person is a red flag. It ignores your ex's consent, and nobody can promise what a ritual does. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, pressure or asking for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Where can I talk to an ex back astrologer online?
You can talk to an astrologer about your ex on Kismo, by chat or call, online from anywhere in India and abroad. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Every astrologer there passes a qualification review, a panel interview, live audits and a 30-day probation.
Talk to an astrologer about getting an ex back
Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
On an iPhone, log in on kismo.app in your browser.
Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 32: karakas (significators), Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: the 7th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 46: Vimshottari dasha, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Praśna: definitions, including the Monier-Williams Sanskrit-English Dictionary entry, Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Young adulthood marked by relationship 'churning' (Halpern-Meekin, Manning, Giordano and Longmore, Journal of Adolescent Research, 2013), Bowling Green State University. Accessed .
- On-Again, Off-Again Relationships, chapter 1: Description and Prevalence of On-Again/Off-Again Relationships (René M. Dailey, 2019), Cambridge University Press. Accessed .
- How much agency do Indian women have in marriage choices? (Bipasa Banerjee, India Human Development Survey), NCAER National Data Innovation Centre. Accessed .
- On-off relationships positively affect friendships, UT News, The University of Texas at Austin. Accessed .
