Talk to an astrologer about your situationship
A situationship is a romance without a label, and many astrologers answer a question about it with a chart for the moment you ask, rather than a long birth-chart reading.
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We've been seeing each other for five months. He says he likes me but never calls it a relationship. Where is this going?
Let me note the time of your question and your birth details. I look at a prashna chart for this moment first, then your 5th and 7th houses, and we talk about what you want.
Short answer
A situationship is a romantic, often physical connection without a clear label or commitment 2. Many astrologers answer where a situationship is going with prashna, a chart cast for the moment you ask, or with tarot, alongside the 5th and 7th houses of your birth chart. No reading can decide for the other person. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers take such questions by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about situationship?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| What it is | Time together and physical closeness, without a label, exclusivity or commitment 2 |
| Other names | Talking stage, undefined relationship, almost relationship, nothing official |
| How astrologers read it | Prashna for the question asked now, tarot for themes, the 5th and 7th houses for the longer view |
| What a reading cannot do | Decide the other person's feelings or choice; their choice stays theirs |
| What to bring | Your birth details, the exact question, and the time you first ask it |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check for a situationship question?
- The moment of the question. Prashna Marga is a manual for answering a specific question from the sky at the time it is asked 7.
- Your 7th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.8 names the 7th as the house of the spouse, so it is read for commitment 6.
- Your 5th house. Many astrologers read romance from the 5th, though verse 11.6 itself lists children, learning and mantras 6.
- Your 11th house. Verse 11.12 lists gains and spouses among the 11th's matters, and some astrologers read it for wishes fulfilled 6.
- The running dasha and Venus. An astrologer looks at which period you are in, and where Venus is in your chart and in the sky now.
Which situation is yours?
- Will My Situationship Become a Relationship?
When you want to know if it will become a relationship, a single prashna question and your 7th house matter most, and the honest talk matters more.
- Mixed Signals in a Situationship: Ask an Astrologer
When the signals are mixed, the reading is about your own anxiety and the pattern of contact, not about decoding the other person.
- Should I Walk Away From My Situationship?
When you are thinking of walking away, the session is about your own timing and what you need, since the choice to stay or go is yours.
How much does the time of asking change a prashna chart?
The time of asking changes a prashna chart a lot, because its ascendant moves to the next sign in about two hours. These figures were calculated from public astronomical data with the open-source astronomia library: 4,000 random moments in 2026, a question asked in Delhi, Lahiri sidereal signs.
| Calculated fact | Result |
|---|---|
| Ascendant in a different sign 15 minutes later | 12.5% of moments |
| Ascendant in a different sign 30 minutes later | 24.2% of moments |
| Ascendant in a different sign 1 hour later | 49.6% of moments |
| Moon in a different sign 24 hours later | 44.6% of moments |
| Shortest-rising sign in Delhi, Pisces | About 85 minutes |
| Longest-rising signs in Delhi, Cancer and Libra | About 140 minutes |
So asking the same question an hour later gives a different ascendant half the time. That is why prashna astrologers ask you to note the moment you first asked, and to ask once.
Where does the practice of reading a single relationship question come from?
Reading a single relationship question comes from prashna, the horary branch of Vedic astrology. Prashna Marga, a Kerala manual with a Sanskrit commentary, sets out how to turn one specific question into a chart for the time it is asked 7.
The birth chart answers a different kind of question. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra chapter 11 gives each house its matters, and it places the spouse in the 7th, not the 5th 6. Reading the 5th for romance is how many present-day astrologers use it; the verse itself does not name romance.
| Method | What it is built for | What it cannot answer | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| Prashna | One question, read from the moment it is asked | Questions asked again and again until the answer changes | 7 |
| Birth chart, 7th house | The spouse and partnership over a lifetime | What one person feels this week | 6 |
| Birth chart, 5th house | In the verse: children, learning, mantras | A label for the relationship | 6 |
| Tarot | Themes and choices around a question, in a spread | Another person's private intentions | Not part of the texts cited here |
Tarot is not part of the classical Sanskrit texts cited on this page. Readers who use it describe themes and choices rather than fixed outcomes, which suits an open question better than a yes-or-no one.
How common are situationships and on-off relationships?
Situationships and on-off relationships are common, though studies measure them in different ways. A research summary on on-again, off-again relationships finds that about two-thirds of people have at least one, and that such relationships go through two to three renewals on average 3.
| Finding | Figure | Source |
|---|---|---|
| People who have at least one on-off relationship | About two-thirds | 3 |
| Average renewals in an on-off relationship | Two to three | 3 |
| College students and situationships studied at Baylor | 89 students, 109 situationships | 1 |
| Indian youth who approve of dating before marriage | 15%, plus 22% who somewhat approve | 5 |
| Indian youth who oppose dating before marriage | 53% | 5 |
| Indian youth who disapprove of living together unmarried | 67% | 5 |
In India, social disapproval shapes how such relationships are lived. The 2016 Lokniti-CSDS youth survey calls its approval figures a lower bound, since people may under-report approval of things that carry taboo 5. A connection kept quiet from family can stay undefined for longer for that reason alone.
Partners who cycle in and out report lower satisfaction and more uncertainty about commitment, a 2019 study of 211 adults found 4. The same study found no particular type of person who ends up in such relationships 4.
Prashna timing adds one more number to keep in mind. In the calculation above, the ascendant of a question chart changed sign within 30 minutes a quarter of the time. So two people asking about the same situationship on the same evening can get quite different charts, which is why the astrologer reads the asker's own question and not a general forecast.
What should I ask myself about a situationship before a reading?
Before a reading about a situationship, ask yourself the questions research links to how people feel in one. A 2025 Baylor study found emotional investment, talking about the future and making each other a priority were linked to higher satisfaction and commitment 1.
- Do I know whether we are exclusive, or have I only assumed it? Some people in the study believed they were exclusive without ever discussing it 1.
- Have we ever talked about the future, even vaguely?
- Are my emotional needs met often, or only now and then?
- Who makes the plans, and who asks what this is? One partner doing all the work is a common sign 2.
- What answer do I want from the reading, and what will I do with each possible answer?
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If you wait long enough, a situationship turns into a relationship.
The Baylor study found many people hope it will, but it measured one point in time and could not show what happens later 1. Waiting alone is not a plan.
Belief: An astrologer can tell you exactly what the other person feels.
A reading describes your chart and your question, not another person's private mind. Prashna is built to answer the asker's question at a given moment 7.
Belief: Asking the same question again gives a better answer.
A prashna chart's ascendant changes sign within an hour about half the time, by calculation, so repeated asking gives a different chart, not a truer one.
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Which astrologers can I talk to about situationship?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Can you cast a prashna for my question at the time I first asked it?
- What do my 5th and 7th houses show about relationships in general?
- Which dasha am I running, and what does it suggest about commitment right now?
- What does the tarot spread show about my own choices here?
- What would you look at if I decide to walk away?
What should I know before booking a session about situationship?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
What is a situationship, and what does it mean in Hindi?
A situationship is a romantic, often physical connection with no clear label, exclusivity or commitment. Researchers describe it as spending time together and being intimate while the relationship stays undefined. In Hindi the English word is usually used; the sense is roughly ek aisa rishta jiska koi naam nahi, a relationship without a name.
What is the difference between a situationship and a relationship?
The difference is the label and the commitment. A relationship has an agreed name and usually exclusivity; a situationship has closeness without either being discussed. Research also notes one partner often wants more than the other, and the more invested one ends up making plans and asking what this is.
How long does a situationship usually last?
There is no fixed length for a situationship, and studies have not measured a typical one. Research on on-again, off-again relationships finds they can last as long as relationships that never break, often through two or three renewals. What matters more is whether you have talked about the future.
Can astrology tell me where my situationship is going?
Astrology can describe your side of it, not decide it. Many astrologers use prashna, a chart for the moment you ask, or tarot for a question like this, and read your 5th and 7th houses for the longer view. The other person's choice remains theirs, and no reading can promise an outcome.
Is a situationship bad for me?
A situationship is not bad in itself, but it can hurt when one person wants more. A Baylor study found satisfaction rose when partners felt invested, talked about the future and put each other first. If you feel anxious most of the time, that is worth taking seriously.
Should I use tarot or prashna for a situationship question?
Use prashna for one clear question asked once, and tarot if you want to talk through themes and choices. Prashna casts a chart for the moment of asking, so the time must be noted. Tarot spreads describe patterns rather than dates. Both work best alongside an honest talk with the other person.
What does it cost to ask a Kismo astrologer about my situationship?
A situationship reading on Kismo costs the astrologer's own per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, charged per started minute from your wallet. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Your first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed.
An astrologer offers a ritual to make him commit to me. Is that a red flag?
Yes, any offer to make another person commit is a red flag. Nobody can or should control someone else's feelings, and such rituals are a common way to take money. Walk away from the offer. On Kismo, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Talk to an astrologer about situationship
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Where do these facts come from?
- New psychology research reveals why people stay in situationships (on Langlais et al., Sexuality & Culture, 2025), PsyPost. Accessed .
- The psychology of situationships: what they are and signs you are in one, PsyPost. Accessed .
- Description and prevalence of on-again/off-again relationships, in On-Again, Off-Again Relationships (R. M. Dailey, 2019), Cambridge University Press. Accessed .
- There doesn't appear to be a particular type of person who gets into on-off again relationships (on Dailey et al., Journal of Social and Personal Relationships), PsyPost. Accessed .
- Attitudes, anxieties and aspirations of India's youth: changing patterns (CSDS and Konrad Adenauer Stiftung, 2017), Lokniti-CSDS. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11: judgement of houses, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Prashna Marga with Sanskrit commentary (Nilakantha), Source Library. Accessed .
