Problems with in-laws in your marriage: talk to an astrologer about the family houses
Trouble with a mother-in-law or the wider family is read from the houses of family, home and relatives, and it usually lands on the couple's own bond.
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My mother-in-law criticises everything I do, and my husband never says anything. We fight about it every week. What does my chart show?
Please share your birth date, time and place. I look at your 4th house of home, your 2nd house of family and how both connect to your 7th, then the dasha you are running now.
Short answer
In-law problems in a marriage are read in Vedic astrology from the 2nd house of family, the 4th house of home and relatives and the 9th house of brothers- and sisters-in-law, beside the 7th 123. An astrologer can show where the strain sits and which periods look easier. The couple still decides how to set limits. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about marital problems?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | Strain with a mother-in-law, father-in-law or the husband's or wife's siblings, called saas bahu problems or sasural ki samasya |
| Houses read | 2nd for family, 4th for home and relatives, 9th for brothers- and sisters-in-law 123 |
| How common living together is | Over 70% of married women live with one or both parents-in-law right after the wedding 5 |
| What an astrologer checks | Those houses and their lords, their link to the 7th, the Moon, and the dasha |
| When to call for help first | Any hitting, locking in or threats from anyone in the house: 181 or 112 7 |
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What does an astrologer check for in-law problems?
- The 4th house and its lord. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.5 reads the 4th for vehicles, relatives, the mother's well-being, land and buildings, so the shared home sits here 2.
- The 2nd house of family. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.3 lists family, wealth and grain under the 2nd 1.
- The 9th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.10 is the verse that names brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law, under the 9th 3.
- How these houses link to the 7th. Many astrologers check whether the lords of the 2nd, 4th or 9th sit in, aspect or rule the 7th, where the spouse is read.
- The 6th house. Prasna Marga reads afflicted malefics in the 6th as quarrels among relatives, though it says this of marriage talks before a wedding 4.
What changes the answer when the trouble is with in-laws?
- Whether you live under one roof. In a joint home the 4th house matters most; if you live apart, the reading leans on the 2nd and 9th.
- Which relative it is. A mother-in-law, a father-in-law and a sister-in-law are read from different houses, so say who it is.
- Where your spouse stands. A spouse who backs you and one who stays silent lead to different conversations, in the chart and at home.
- Whether anyone hurts you. Hitting, locking in or taking your money or documents is a matter for 181, 112 or a lawyer, not a chart.
How many Indian couples live with their in-laws?
Living with in-laws is the norm for young Indian couples. Over 70% of married women live with one or both parents-in-law right after marriage, by data from the India Human Development Survey and a household panel 5. The share falls over the years as couples move out or parents die 5.
India is one of nine countries where more than 30% of married women live with a mother-in-law, and that share has risen over time 6. Across Central and Southern Asia, 52.1% of married women aged 20 to 24 do 6.
| What living with in-laws changes | Finding | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Paid work | Living with a father-in-law lowers married women's employment by about 11% to 13% | 5 |
| Big decisions | Tend to rest with the father-in-law rather than the husband | 5 |
| Freedom to go out | Women in joint homes have less mobility and less control over money | 5 |
In-law tension rarely means in-law violence. Among women who had faced physical violence since age 15, 77.9% named a current husband and 0.7% a mother-in-law 8. When women sought help, 61% turned to their own family and 29.3% to the husband's family 8.
A Kismo astrologer can read your 2nd, 4th and 9th houses, say which periods look easier at home, and help you plan a calm talk with your spouse. An astrologer cannot change a relative's behaviour or settle a property or dowry question. Those need a family counsellor or a lawyer.
What do people most often ask about in-laws and astrology?
| Question | Short answer |
|---|---|
| Is there a house for the mother-in-law? | The texts give no single house; Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.10 puts brothers- and sisters-in-law under the 9th 3 |
| Will things improve if we move out? | No chart can promise that; an astrologer can read the 4th house and the dasha for a move |
| Is it my fault or theirs? | A chart shows tendencies on both sides, not blame |
| Can my husband's chart help? | Yes, his chart adds his side, including his own 4th house of home and relatives 2 |
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: A bad mother-in-law is written in the daughter-in-law's kundli and nothing can change it.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.10 reads in-laws through the 9th house as one house among twelve, with strengths and weaknesses like any other 3. A chart describes tendencies; how a family treats you is still a choice people make.
Belief: In-law trouble is mostly about the mother-in-law.
One study found employment fell for women living with a father-in-law, not a mother-in-law, and big decisions tended to rest with him 5.
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Questions worth asking in the session
- What do my 4th house and its lord show about home life now?
- Is my 2nd or 9th lord linked to my 7th house?
- What does my spouse's 4th house show about home and family?
- Which months look better for a calm family conversation, or for a move?
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Questions people ask
Which house in astrology shows problems with in-laws?
No single house shows in-law problems. Astrologers read the 2nd house for family, the 4th for home and relatives and the 9th, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra links to brothers- and sisters-in-law, then check how each connects to the 7th house of the spouse. The running dasha shows when the strain is read as stronger.
Can astrology tell me why my mother-in-law doesn't like me?
No, astrology cannot read another person's feelings about you. Your chart can show how home and family feel from your side and which periods are harder, and your spouse's chart adds the other side. The mother-in-law's own reasons are best heard by talking, sometimes with a family counsellor present.
My husband never stands up for me with his parents. What can I do?
Start with a calm, private talk with your husband about one specific situation, not the whole history. Many couples find a counsellor helps when one partner feels caught between spouse and parents. An astrologer can read both 4th houses and suggest a quieter period for that talk, but the agreement has to come from the two of you.
Will living separately from my in-laws solve our problems?
Living separately helps some couples and not others, and no chart can promise either result. An astrologer can read your 4th house of home and the dasha for a change of residence. Money, care for ageing parents and your spouse's wishes all matter in that choice, so talk it through together first.
What does it cost to ask a Kismo astrologer about my in-laws?
A session about in-laws on Kismo is billed at the astrologer's rate, from ₹15 a minute, per started minute from your wallet. Your first session includes 5 free minutes with no card. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
An astrologer says my in-laws did black magic on us. Should I believe that?
No, treat a claim of black magic as a red flag. It turns a family problem into fear and is often followed by an expensive ritual. Get a second opinion before paying for anything. On Kismo, pressure or a request for money outside the app counts as misconduct and is handled by a person.
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11, verse 3: the 2nd house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11, verse 5: the 4th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11, verse 10: the 9th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Prasna Marga, Part 2, chapter 17 (Vivaha Prasna), stanza 17 and notes, tr. B. V. Raman, Internet Archive copy. Accessed .
- Living with the in-laws: Effect on women's employment in India (Rajshri Jayaraman, 13 March 2023), Ideas for India. Accessed .
- Women living with their mothers-in-law (Bietsch, LaNasa and Sonneveldt, 2021), Gates Open Research, via PubMed Central. Accessed .
- India's Commitment to Women's Safety (29 March 2025), Ministry of Women and Child Development, Press Information Bureau. Accessed .
- India NFHS-5 (2019-21): who commits physical violence and where women seek help, The DHS Program API (ICF), data of the International Institute for Population Sciences. Accessed .
