He keeps delaying the marriage talk: talk to an astrologer about timing and your next step
When marriage talk keeps getting pushed back, a reading weighs his career and family timing against how long you are willing to wait.
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Every time we plan to tell our families, he says wait until his promotion. It has been two years. Is it really his career, or is he delaying marriage?
Two years of waiting deserves a clear answer. Share both birth details, and I will read his career period and both 7th houses. Then we can talk about a timeline you are comfortable with.
Short answer
When he keeps delaying the marriage talk, the reason is often career, money, family or doubt. In Vedic astrology, many astrologers read the dashas and transits linked to the 7th and 10th houses in both charts to see which applies. A reading cannot set his date, but it can help you set yours. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read both charts by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about will he commit?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | You have talked about marriage, but he keeps saying later |
| Common reasons | Job or studies, savings, family approval, or doubt about the step itself |
| What an astrologer checks | His 10th house and dasha for career, both 7th houses, and the transits astrologers link to marriage |
| What you decide | How long you will wait, and what has to happen by then |
| What to bring | Both birth details if he shared his, and how long the talk has been delayed |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when marriage talk keeps getting delayed?
- His current dasha and its lord. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 13, names the dasha of a planet in, aspecting or owning the 7th house as a time for marriage 4.
- His 10th house and career period, to see whether a work phase is pulling his focus, as many astrologers read it.
- The stronger of Venus and the Moon. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 14, ties marriage to that dasha with a Jupiter transit in trine to the 7th lord 4.
- Your own 7th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 80.4 reads a woman's marital happiness from it 5.
- Whether both charts point to the same window, or to very different ones.
What changes the answer when he keeps delaying marriage?
- Whether he gives a reason and a date. 'After my exam in March' is a plan; 'someday' is not.
- Whether your families know. Delay sometimes hides fear of telling parents, especially across caste or religion.
- Whether you live together or share money. Each step you take together makes a late no costlier.
- Your own age and plans. Your timeline counts as much as his career.
Why do men delay marriage, and what does research say about waiting?
Indian men are marrying later than their fathers did. In NFHS-5, marriage before the legal age of 21 fell from 27% of men aged 45 to 49 to 18% of men aged 25 to 29 2.
Study and work explain much of the delay. The Lokniti-CSDS youth report links later marriage to more education, career focus and worries about financial security 3. It adds that this freedom to postpone has worked more for young men than for young women 3.
Drifting is the risk. Psychologist Scott Stanley's work on 'sliding versus deciding' finds couples do better when they talk directly about the future before big steps 1. Sliding into those steps, like moving in, makes it harder to leave later 1.
| Finding | Number or point | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Men married before 21, aged 45-49 | 27% | 2 |
| Men married before 21, aged 25-29 | 18% | 2 |
| Urban vs rural women, median age at first marriage | 20.1 vs 18.2 years | 2 |
| Main reasons young Indians postpone marriage | Education, career, financial security | 3 |
| What protects couples | Deciding together, not sliding | 1 |
A Kismo astrologer can read the timing in both charts. The conversation about a date, and the decision about how long to wait, still belong to the two of you.
How do I move from delayed marriage talk to a real decision?
Moving from delayed talk to a decision works best in clear steps with dates. This is a plan many couples and counsellors use, not a rule.
This week
Ask him what has to happen before marriage, and write the list down together.
Within a month
Agree on a rough date for each item, like a job change or telling parents.
Every three months
Check the list. Are items getting done, or are new ones appearing?
Your own limit
Decide privately how long you will wait if nothing moves, and what you will do then.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If he delays marriage, the stars are against us.
Phaladeepika chapter 10 reads timing from dashas and transits, which change over months and years 4. A delay in one period is not a verdict on the whole relationship.
Belief: Only my chart matters for when I marry.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 80.4 reads marital happiness from the 7th house, and astrologers read his chart the same way, so both charts count 5.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about will he commit?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Is he in a career-heavy dasha right now, and when does it change?
- Which window do both our charts point to for marriage?
- What do our 4th houses say about telling our families?
- How long do you think is fair for me to wait, given my chart?
- What can I do in the meantime that is simple and free?
What should I know before booking a session about will he commit?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Why does he keep delaying marriage talk?
He may keep delaying marriage talk because of career, savings, family approval or doubt about the step itself. Some men want to be settled in a job first; others are unsure and avoid saying so. Ask what exactly has to happen first, and whether he can put a rough date on it.
Is it a red flag if my boyfriend keeps postponing marriage?
Postponing marriage is not always a red flag, but postponing with no reason and no date for years is a warning sign. A clear plan, even a slow one, shows intent. If every deadline moves and new reasons keep appearing, take that seriously and decide how long you are willing to wait.
Can astrology show if marriage is delayed in his kundli?
Astrologers read delay in a kundli from Saturn's link to the 7th house, the 7th lord's strength and the dasha running. That can point to a later window, not to a refusal. With his details, an astrologer compares his timing with yours. His willingness to plan is still the real test.
How long should I wait for him to be ready for marriage?
How long to wait is your decision, and many people set a limit of one or two years once marriage is on the table. Tie the limit to concrete steps, not feelings. A reading can show when your own timing looks settled, which helps you choose a limit you can keep.
What does a Kismo session about delayed marriage cost?
A Kismo session about delayed marriage costs the astrologer's rate, from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute from your wallet. The minimum top-up is ₹100. Your first session has 5 free minutes and needs no card, and money you do not use stays in your wallet.
An astrologer says I must do an expensive remedy to stop the delay. Should I?
No, do not pay for an expensive remedy under pressure to end a delay. No ritual can promise another person's decision, and many astrologers suggest only simple, free practices. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you or asks for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Should we move in together while we wait to marry?
Moving in together while you wait is a big step, so talk it through properly before you do it. Agree on what it means for marriage before you move, not after. In India, also think about family and legal questions, and ask a lawyer if property or rent is involved.
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Where do these facts come from?
- Living together before marriage: a risky move? (RadioEd with Scott Stanley on sliding versus deciding), University of Denver. Accessed .
- National Family Health Survey (NFHS-5), 2019-21: India, chapter 6 (marriage), International Institute for Population Sciences and Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, via The DHS Program. Accessed .
- Attitudes, anxieties and aspirations of India's youth: changing patterns (CSDS-KAS Youth Study 2016), Lokniti, Centre for the Study of Developing Societies. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 10: the 7th house (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 80 (women's horoscopes), verse 4, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
