One-sided love

Moving on from one-sided love: talk to an astrologer about your next chapter

Moving on from one-sided love is about your own healing and timing, and a reading turns the focus from them back to you.

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I finally accepted that he will never love me the way I love him. How do I move on? I still check his profile every day.

That took courage to say. Share your birth details and I will look at your Moon and the dasha you are in, and what comes next. We can also talk about small steps, like a break from his profile.

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Short answer

Moving on from one-sided love usually takes weeks to months, and the pull fades with distance and time. In Vedic astrology, many astrologers read your Moon for your state of mind and your dasha for when a new phase may start. The reading is about you, not about winning them back. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers talk this through by chat or call, online from anywhere.

Key facts

What are the key facts about one-sided love?

	Answer
The situation	You have decided, or been told, that the feeling will not be returned
What a reading looks at	Your Moon, your 5th house, and your current and next dasha
What helps most	Distance from the person, routine, and people you trust
When to get more help	If sleep, food or work suffer for weeks: Tele-MANAS on 14416, free and 24/7 ³
What to bring	Your birth date, time and place
Session on Kismo	From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad

What gets checked

What does an astrologer check when you want to move on from one-sided love?

The Moon. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.12 calls the Moon the mind, so astrologers read its sign, house and company for how heavy this period feels ⁴.
Transits over your natal Moon. Many astrologers note slow planets passing over the Moon as times of low mood, and read when they move on.
Your 5th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.6 links it to learning and the intellect, which many astrologers point to for new interests and study ⁵.
Your current and next dasha. The change from one period to the next is read as a natural point for a fresh start.
Your 7th house, to look ahead. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.8 gives it the spouse, so astrologers read it for future partnership, not for this person ⁵.

Your situation

What changes the answer when you are moving on from one-sided love?

Whether you still see them every day. A classmate or colleague is harder to step back from than someone far away.
Whether you still talk or follow them online. Ongoing contact often keeps the feeling alive longer.
How long it has lasted. A crush of a few months and a feeling held for years need different patience.
How you are coping. Tiredness and sadness are normal; weeks without sleep or food call for a doctor or counsellor.

What research says

Why is it so hard to stop loving someone, according to research?

Stopping love is hard because rejection lights up the brain's reward and craving systems. A 2010 brain-scan study of 15 people rejected in love found activity in areas linked to motivation, craving and physical pain ¹.

The same study hints that time helps. On average 63 days had passed since the rejection, and the longer it had been, the lower the activity in an area tied to attachment ¹.

Contact matters too. In a study of 1,295 unmarried adults aged 18 to 35, ongoing contact with a former partner went with a larger fall in life satisfaction after a breakup ². Dating someone new went with a smaller fall ².

Finding	Number	Source
People scanned after rejection	15, about 63 days after	¹
Unmarried adults followed over 20 months	1,295, aged 18 to 35	²
Breakups followed by a large drop in well-being	About 43%	²
Tele-MANAS calls in its first two years	Over 14.7 lakh	³

Free help exists in India. Tele-MANAS, the Health Ministry's helpline on 14416, offers 24/7 counselling in 20 languages, including for relationship conflicts ³. A Kismo astrologer can talk about your chart and timing, but does not replace a counsellor or doctor.

Step by step

What does moving on from one-sided love look like week by week?

Moving on from one-sided love rarely runs in a straight line. This is a rough guide many counsellors and astrologers describe, not a fixed schedule.

Week 1 to 2
Accept the feeling without acting on it. Mute or unfollow their profile and tell one person you trust.
Week 3 to 6
Fill the hours you spent thinking of them: sleep, exercise, study or a hobby you dropped.
Month 2 to 3
Notice the days that feel lighter. Write down what you learned about what you want in a partner.
After that
Look ahead. Many people book a reading here to ask about the next phase of their chart.

Myths and facts

What do people get wrong about this?

Belief: Staying close as friends helps you get over them faster.

Ongoing contact with a former partner went with a larger fall in life satisfaction in the 2011 study of 1,295 unmarried adults ².

Belief: If I still feel it this strongly, I will never get over it.

In the 2010 brain-scan study, attachment-linked activity was lower the longer it had been since the rejection ¹.

Before you pay anyone

How do you know an astrologer is genuine?

Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.

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How it works

How does a consultation on Kismo work?

Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
Share your date, time and place of birth.
Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.

Questions worth asking in the session

What does my Moon show about how I am handling this?
When does my current dasha end, and what does the next one suggest?
What does my 7th house say about future partnership?
Which simple, free practices do you suggest for a calmer mind?

Before you book

What should I know before booking a session about one-sided love?

Question	Answer
What does a session cost?	Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026).
Is the first session free?	5 free minutes on the first session, no card.
Chat or call?	Both. You choose when you start the session.
Do I need an exact birth time?	It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you.
Is my chat private?	Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy.
What if I am not happy?	There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person.
Where does it work?	Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries.

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Questions people ask

How long does it take to move on from one-sided love?

Moving on from one-sided love often takes a few weeks to a few months, and longer if you see the person every day. In one brain-scan study, attachment-linked activity was lower the longer it had been since the rejection. Distance, routine and support from people you trust usually speed it up.

How do I stop thinking about someone who does not love me?

You stop thinking about them mostly by reducing the reminders: mute their profile, avoid checking on them, and fill that time with sleep, movement and people. Thoughts will still come; let them pass without acting on them. If the thoughts stop you working or sleeping for weeks, talk to a counsellor.

Can astrology tell me when I will get over one-sided love?

Astrology cannot give a date when you will get over one-sided love, but many astrologers read your Moon, its transits and your dasha changes for calmer phases. Treat that as a guide to timing, not a rule. What you do each day, like keeping distance and routine, matters at least as much.

Is there a mantra or remedy to forget my one-sided love?

No mantra or remedy can erase a feeling, but many astrologers suggest simple, free practices for a calmer mind, such as a daily prayer, a Monday fast or quiet time at sunrise. These are traditions, not promises. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual, and see a doctor if your mood stays low.

How much does it cost to talk to a Kismo astrologer about moving on?

Talking to a Kismo astrologer about moving on costs the astrologer's per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, for chat or call. Your first session carries 5 free minutes and needs no card. The minimum wallet top-up is ₹100, and unused money stays in your wallet.

An astrologer says I need a costly ritual to cut the bond. Is that a scam?

Treat any costly ritual to cut a bond or remove someone from your mind as a red flag. Healing comes mostly from time, distance and support, and no ritual can promise it. Get a second opinion first. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you or asks for money outside the app is handled by a person.

When should I talk to a counsellor instead of an astrologer?

Talk to a counsellor or doctor when sadness lasts for weeks, sleep or appetite change, or you lose interest in daily life. In India, Tele-MANAS on 14416 is free, runs 24/7 and works in 20 languages. If you ever think of harming yourself, call 14416 at once, 112 in an emergency or Women Helpline 181, or go to the nearest hospital ⁶.