Will they love me back? Talk to an astrologer about your chances and your timing
Whether someone loves you back is their choice, and a reading can only show compatibility, timing and your own side of it.
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I like someone in my office and I think they might like me too. Will they love me back? I have my birth details but not theirs.
Thank you for sharing. With only your chart, I can read your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and your timing, but not their feelings. If you ever have their details with their consent, I can compare the two charts.
Short answer
No astrologer can promise that someone will love you back, because their feelings are their own. What a reading can do is compare both charts when you have both birth details, and read your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and dasha for timing. That shows how well you match and your own timing. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read this by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about one-sided love?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The question | Whether the person you love may come to feel the same |
| What a reading can show | Compatibility between two charts, and timing in your own chart |
| What it cannot show | What the other person feels, or what they will choose |
| What an astrologer checks | Your 5th and 7th houses, Venus, the navamsha of your 7th, then their chart if you have it |
| What to bring | Your birth date, time and place; theirs only if they gave it to you |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, first session with 5 free minutes, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when you ask if someone will love you back?
- The 7th house in your navamsha. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 80.35 reads an auspicious navamsha on a woman's 7th house as being beloved of her husband 6.
- The sign and planets in your 7th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 80.22 to 80.25 describes the partner by the planet or sign there 6.
- Venus and the 7th house counted from it. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.23 judges the wife from the 7th counted from Venus 4.
- The partner's sign as a pointer. Phaladeepika chapter 10, sloka 11, derives the spouse's Moon sign partly from Venus and the 1st and 7th lords 5.
- Both charts together, when you have consent for the other person's details. This is where kundli matching and guna scores come in.
What changes the answer to will they love me back?
- Whether you have their birth details. With only your chart, the reading covers your side and your timing; with both, an astrologer can read the match.
- Whether they know how you feel. An unspoken crush and a feeling they have already turned down are read very differently.
- Whether they are free. If they are married, engaged or have said no, an honest reading is about your path, not about winning them over.
- How you know them. A friend of two years, a colleague and someone you met online carry different questions about timing and trust.
What makes someone like you back, according to research?
Liking someone back is strongest when the interest feels meant for that one person. A 2007 speed-dating study of 156 students found that romantic desire aimed at one person tended to be returned 1.
The same study found the opposite for general eagerness. People who felt desire for nearly everyone they met were desired less in return 1. Each student had four-minute dates with 9 to 13 people 1.
Feelings between friends often take time. In a 2021 University of Victoria study of nearly 1,900 students, friendships that turned romantic did so after one to two years on average 3.
| Finding | Number | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Students in the speed-dating study | 156 | 1 |
| Dates each student had | 9 to 13, of four minutes each | 1 |
| Time before friends became a couple | One to two years on average | 3 |
| Unmarried young Indians who prefer an arranged marriage | 53% of women, 48% of men | 2 |
| Young Indians opposed to dating before marriage | 53% | 2 |
Family views also shape whether a feeling is said out loud in India. In the Lokniti-CSDS youth survey of 2016, 53% of young people opposed dating before marriage, and only about one in seven approved 2. A Kismo astrologer can read your chart and timing, but cannot read another person's heart.
What do people ask about whether their crush will love them back?
| Question | Short answer |
|---|---|
| Can I find out without their birth details? | Only your side and timing; prashna or tarot can reflect the question, not their feelings |
| Is a high guna score a sign they love me? | No, a guna score measures compatibility, not anyone's feelings |
| They are kind to me. Is that love? | Kindness is not always romantic; look at whether they seek you out over time |
| Should I keep waiting? | Set a time limit for yourself; the reading can help you choose it |
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: Showing interest in many people makes you more wanted.
The speed-dating study found that people who desired almost everyone were desired less in return 1.
Belief: If they have been just a friend for years, it can never turn into love.
In the University of Victoria study, friendships that became romantic took one to two years on average 3.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about one-sided love?
- Jyothsna Gosala
Tarot Reading, Life Coach · 1 yrs
English, Telugu, Hindi
★ 4.5 · 5,992 orders · ₹25/min
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What does my 7th house and its navamsha say about how I am loved?
- Is my current dasha a time when love moves for me?
- If I share their birth details with their consent, how well do our charts match?
- How long should I wait before I decide to move on?
What should I know before booking a session about one-sided love?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Will my crush love me back according to astrology?
Astrology cannot say for sure whether your crush will love you back, because their feelings are not written in your chart. Many astrologers read your 5th and 7th houses, Venus and dasha for your own timing. With both birth details, they can also compare the two charts for compatibility. The final choice always belongs to the other person.
How can I know if the person I love loves me back?
You can know if the person you love feels the same mainly by how they act over time: they seek you out, remember what you say and make plans with you. A reading can add your own timing, not their thoughts. If you are unsure, an honest, gentle conversation tells you more than any chart.
Can an astrologer read my crush's chart without telling them?
An astrologer can only read a chart from birth details, and using someone's details without their knowledge is not fair to them. Many astrologers prefer to read your own chart and use prashna or tarot for the question itself. If you are close enough to ask for their birth details, ask with their consent.
Does a good kundli match mean they will fall in love with me?
No, a good kundli match does not mean someone will fall in love with you. Guna milan and other matching methods compare two charts for compatibility in marriage. They say nothing about whether a person is attracted to you today. Feelings come from the people involved, and a match score is one input among many.
How do I ask a Kismo astrologer if they will love me back?
You can ask a Kismo astrologer by chat or call: share your birth date, time and place, and describe the situation in a few lines. Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. Your first session has 5 free minutes, and only the minutes you use are charged from your wallet.
An astrologer says a puja will make them love me back. Should I pay?
No, do not pay for a puja that promises to make someone love you back. Nobody can control another person's feelings, and that promise is a common way to take money. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, pressure to pay or requests for money outside the app are handled by a person.
How long should I wait for someone to love me back?
There is no fixed time, but setting your own limit helps, often a few months of honest effort. Research on friends who became couples found the change took one to two years on average. If they have said no or moved on, waiting longer rarely helps, and the kinder step is to start letting go.
Talk to an astrologer about one-sided love
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Where do these facts come from?
- Selective vs. unselective romantic desire: not all reciprocity is created equal (Eastwick, Finkel, Mochon and Ariely), Psychological Science, 2007, Massachusetts Institute of Technology (author copy). Accessed .
- Attitudes, anxieties and aspirations of India's youth: changing patterns (CSDS-KAS Youth Study 2016), Lokniti, Centre for the Study of Developing Societies. Accessed .
- Two-thirds of couples are friends first, study finds, University of Victoria. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 32 (karakas), verse 23, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 10: the 7th house (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 80 (women's horoscopes), verses 22 to 25 and 35, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
