Does he still love me after a fight? Talk to an astrologer about repair and timing
After a big fight, the question is rarely whether love vanished overnight; it is whether the two of you can repair what was said.
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We had a huge fight yesterday about his friends and both said hurtful things. He has not replied since morning. Does he still love me after this?
A hard fight hurts, and the silence makes it worse. I cannot read his heart, but I can look at Mars and your 7th house, and at whether this is a heated period for you. Then we can talk about how to approach him.
Short answer
One fight does not show that he has stopped loving you, and no chart can read his feelings after it. Research finds that apology and how quickly a couple calms down matter more than the fight itself. An astrologer can read your Mars, 7th house and current period for patterns and calmer timing. On Kismo, verified astrologers help by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about does he love me?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | A big argument with your boyfriend or partner, and now silence or tension |
| What matters most in repair | Apology, empathy and letting anger cool, in a meta-analysis of 175 studies 1 |
| What an astrologer checks | Mars in both charts, your 7th house and lord, the Moon and your running dasha |
| What a reading cannot do | Say who was right, read his feelings, or make him call |
| What to bring | Your birth date, time and place; his only if he shared them |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check after a fight with your partner?
- Mars in your chart, and in his if you have it. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.25 describes Mars as fickle and angry, so astrologers read it for temper and heat in arguments 4.
- Your 7th house and its lord. The condition of the 7th house is read for how you meet a partner when things go wrong.
- The Moon in both charts. Many astrologers compare the two Moons to see how quickly each person cools down and opens up again.
- The running dasha and any Mars period. A Mars dasha or antardasha is often read as a time when small disputes flare faster.
- What the fight was about. The astrologer asks, because a fight about respect or family needs a different talk from one about time.
What changes the answer after a fight?
- Whether this was one fight or the same fight again. A single blow-up reads differently from a pattern, which the constant fights page covers.
- Whether either of you apologised. An apology, even a partial one, changes the next step more than any planet.
- How long the silence has lasted. A day of cooling off is normal; weeks of no reply move the question toward the stopped texting page.
- Whether anything crossed a line. Threats, hitting or humiliation are not a normal fight, and safety comes before any reading.
What helps a couple recover after a fight?
A couple recovers after a fight mainly through apology, empathy and letting anger cool, a large review of forgiveness research shows. The 2010 meta-analysis pooled 175 studies and 26,006 participants 1. Apology was linked with forgiveness at r = .42, and empathy for the other person at r = .51 1.
Anger and blame worked the other way. Believing the hurt was meant on purpose was linked with less forgiveness at r = -.49, and still-burning anger at r = -.41 1. Gender made almost no difference (r = .01), so this applies to him as much as to you 1.
| Factor | Link with forgiveness | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Empathy for the other person | r = .51 | 1 |
| Receiving an apology | r = .42 | 1 |
| Ongoing anger | r = -.41 | 1 |
| Believing the hurt was intended | r = -.49 | 1 |
| Couples still together 2 years after a conflict study | About 55% of 69 | 2 |
How fast a partner calms down after a fight also matters. In a study of 73 young couples, researchers filmed a 10-minute argument, then a 4-minute talk about what they agreed on 2. Having a partner who recovered well in that talk went with more positive feelings in the relationship (β = 0.39) 2.
Making up by phone is less common than people expect. In a US survey of adults in relationships, 9% had settled an argument by text or online that was hard to settle face to face 3. Most repair still happens in a real conversation, once both people are calm.
Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. An astrologer there can read Mars, your 7th house and your timing, and help you plan what to say. An astrologer cannot decide who was right or replace a counsellor when the same fight keeps returning.
What happens in a reading after a fight with my boyfriend?
A reading after a fight usually starts with what happened and ends with a plan for the next conversation. This is an example of how many astrologers structure it, not a real client's chat.
- The astrologer asks what the fight was about, what was said and how long the silence has lasted.
- The astrologer reads Mars and the Moon in your chart, and in his if you have his real birth details.
- The astrologer checks your running dasha to see whether this is read as a heated period for you.
- Together you decide on a first step: an apology, a short message, or a few days of space.
- If the fights keep repeating, the astrologer may suggest a counsellor alongside any reading.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If he loved you, he would never fight with you.
Fights happen in close relationships, and research looks at repair, not at whether couples argue. In one study, how well a partner calmed down after a filmed argument went with more positive feelings in the relationship 2.
Belief: The person who apologises first loses.
A meta-analysis of 175 studies linked receiving an apology with forgiveness at r = .42, one of the strongest links found 1.
Belief: Sorting it out over text is just as good as talking.
Only 9% of adults in relationships in a US survey had resolved an argument by text or online that was hard to resolve in person 3.
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How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- How do you read Mars in my chart and in his?
- Is my current dasha read as a heated time for relationships?
- How long do our two Moons suggest each of us needs to cool down?
- What is a good first message to send, given what was said?
- If we keep having this same fight, what should we change?
What should I know before booking a session about does he love me?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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How do I know if he still loves me after a fight?
A big fight on its own does not mean he stopped loving you. Strong feelings often show up in arguments precisely because the relationship matters. What tells you more is what happens next: whether either of you apologises, whether he is willing to talk once calm, and whether the fight repeats. No chart can read his feelings for you.
Why is he not talking to me after a fight?
A day or two of silence after a fight is common while both people cool down. If you want to reach out, a short, calm message that owns your part often opens the door. If several days pass with no reply, it is fair to ask once directly. Long silence after that is its own answer, and his choice stands.
Should I apologise first even if he was also wrong?
Apologising first for your own part is not admitting all the blame. Research on forgiveness links receiving an apology with forgiveness more strongly than most other factors. Keep the apology to what you said or did, without adding a but. You can still ask him, once calm, to own his part too.
Can astrology tell me when it is a good time to patch up after a fight?
Astrology can suggest periods many astrologers read as calmer, but it cannot decide when he is ready. An astrologer looks at your running dasha, Mars and the Moon, and sometimes uses prashna for the moment you ask. Treat any timing as a guide, not a promise. On Kismo, you can ask this by chat or call, and after the session get up to three other astrologers suggested for a second opinion.
Which planet causes fights with my boyfriend?
No single planet causes fights, but astrologers usually read Mars for temper and heat. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra describes Mars as fickle and angry. The house Mars sits in, the sign, and the period you are running are all checked, along with his chart if you have it. Talking style and stress matter as much as any placement.
What does a reading after a fight cost on Kismo?
A 10-minute reading after a fight costs ₹150 at the lowest rate on Kismo, where each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call from ₹15 a minute (October 2026). Your first session carries 5 free minutes and needs no card. Minutes are billed as you start them, and unused money stays in your wallet.
Is it normal to fight in a relationship, and when is it not?
Some arguing is normal in a relationship, but a fight is not normal when there is hitting, threats, locking you in, or constant humiliation. Then safety comes first, before any reading. In India, Women Helpline 181 answers 24 hours a day and refers women to police, hospitals and legal aid, and 112 is the single emergency number for police, fire and ambulance 5.
Talk to an astrologer about does he love me
Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
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Where do these facts come from?
- The road to forgiveness: a meta-analytic synthesis of its situational and dispositional correlates (Fehr, Gelfand and Nag, Psychological Bulletin 136(5), 2010), American Psychological Association (copy hosted by the Greater Good Science Center, UC Berkeley). Accessed .
- Recovering from conflict in romantic relationships: a developmental perspective (Salvatore, Kuo, Steele, Simpson and Collins, Psychological Science 22(3), 2011), PubMed Central. Accessed .
- Couples, the internet, and social media, Pew Research Center, 11 February 2014. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 3 (planets), verse 25, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- India's commitment to women's safety (Ministry of Women and Child Development), 29 March 2025, Press Information Bureau, Government of India. Accessed .
