Family disputes

Fights between brothers and sisters: talk to an astrologer about a sibling dispute

A dispute between grown siblings is read from the 3rd house and Mars, and the trigger is usually money, a parent's care or a wedding rather than the old childhood rivalry.

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My elder brother and I have not spoken for two years after a fight about money and our mother's care. Is it in my chart?

Please share your birth date, time and place. Your elder brother is read from the 11th house and younger siblings from the 3rd, so I will start there and with your Mars.

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Short answer

A fight between brothers and sisters is read in Vedic astrology from the 3rd house, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra gives to younger siblings, and from Mars, the planet of brothers ¹³. Phaladeepika adds the 11th house for the eldest sibling ². An astrologer can show where the strain sits and which periods look calmer. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.

Key facts

What are the key facts about family disputes?

	Answer
The situation	A grown brother or sister you no longer speak to, or fight with over money, parents or a wedding
Houses read	3rd for younger siblings ¹; 11th for the eldest sibling in Phaladeepika ²
Planet read	Mars, which Phaladeepika makes the significator of brothers ³
Timing in the texts	Prasna Marga times help from siblings by a Jupiter transit worked out from Mars ⁴
If it is about property	A lawyer first; the chart side is on property disputes
Session on Kismo	From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad

What gets checked

What does an astrologer check in a fight between siblings?

The 3rd house and its lord. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.4 reads younger siblings, courage and journeys from the 3rd ¹.
The 11th house for an elder sibling. Phaladeepika 1.15 names the eldest brother or sister under the 11th, though Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.12 does not ²⁵.
Mars. Phaladeepika 15.15 makes Mars the significator of brothers, land, courage and foes, so a strong or troubled Mars colours sibling ties ³.
The 3rd from Mars. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.23 reads brothers from the 3rd house counted from Mars, a second check on the same bond ⁶.
Mars's ashtakavarga and Jupiter's transit. Prasna Marga 32.89 works out a sign from Mars's points; Jupiter crossing it is read as help from brothers ⁴.

Your situation

What changes the answer in a fight between siblings?

Older or younger. A younger sibling is read from the 3rd house and the eldest from the 11th in Phaladeepika, so say which one it is.
What the fight is really about. Money lent, a parent's care, a sibling's marriage and a shared business each point to a different house besides the 3rd.
Whether land or a house is involved. A share in family property is a legal question first, read on property disputes between siblings.
Whether your sibling shares birth details. With both charts, an astrologer compares the two 3rd houses and both running periods instead of reading one side only.
Whether the fight pulls in the whole family. When parents or in-laws take sides, the wider reading on family disputes applies.

Real life

What do studies say about grown siblings in Indian families?

Grown siblings in Indian cities choose their closeness more than they used to. G. N. Ramu's study of 363 adults in Mysore found birth order counted for less, and 36% of the men called their closest brother a friend ⁷.

The same study names what pulls siblings together or apart: living nearby, give and take, the spouses' attitude and the care of ageing parents ⁷. Fewer quarrels over dividing parental assets was one change Ramu saw in city families ⁷.

Living under one roof keeps siblings closer. A 2016 study of 100 middle-aged adults in Dehradun found those in extended families had more contact and more emotional closeness with siblings than those in nuclear families ⁸.

Finding	Figure	Source
Men who call their closest brother a friend, Mysore	36%	⁷
People in the Mysore sibling study	363 (168 men, 195 women)	⁷
Adults in the Dehradun sibling study	100, half in extended families	⁸
Children per woman in India, NFHS-5	2.0, down from 2.2	⁹

Families are also getting smaller. India's fertility rate fell to 2.0 children per woman in NFHS-5, so more people have one sibling to share a parent's care with ⁹.

A Kismo astrologer can read your 3rd and 11th houses and Mars, and suggest a calmer period to reach out. An astrologer cannot decide who is right, divide money or settle a property share.

Both charts

What is read in your chart, in your sibling's, and across both?

A sibling dispute is read in your chart, in your sibling's chart if they agree to share it, and across both. Many astrologers read one side only when the other sibling refuses.

Your chart	Your sibling's chart	Both together
3rd house for a younger sibling, 11th for the eldest	The same houses, counted from their ascendant	Whether both run hard periods at the same time
Mars and the 3rd from Mars	Their Mars and its sign	Whose 2nd house of family money is under strain
Your 4th house if a parent lives with you	Their 4th house	Which months look calmer for both

Myths and facts

What do people get wrong about this?

Belief: Every text reads all brothers and sisters from the 3rd house.

Phaladeepika 1.15 puts the eldest brother or sister in the 11th house ². Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.12 does not name siblings under the 11th at all ⁵.

Belief: A strong Mars means you will always fight with your brother.

Phaladeepika 15.15 makes Mars the significator of brothers and of courage alike ³. Astrologers read its house, sign and aspects before linking it to quarrels.

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Questions worth asking in the session

Is my sibling read from the 3rd house or the 11th, and what does that house show?
How is my Mars placed, and what does that say about how I handle my sibling?
Which months look calmer to call my brother or sister?
If my sibling shares their chart, are we both in a hard period now?

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What should I know before booking a session about family disputes?

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Questions people ask

Which house in astrology shows brothers and sisters?

The 3rd house shows brothers and sisters in Vedic astrology, younger ones especially, by Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.4. Phaladeepika also gives the eldest brother or sister to the 11th house. Mars is the planet of brothers in Phaladeepika, so astrologers read the 3rd house, the 11th and Mars together.

Why do I keep fighting with my brother even as adults?

Adult siblings usually fight over something concrete: money lent, a parent's care, a spouse, or a share in property. Old childhood roles also return under stress. An astrologer may read a strained 3rd house or Mars in your chart, but naming the real trigger is what makes a calm talk possible.

Bhai bhai mein jhagda kyon hota hai, according to astrology?

In Vedic astrology, a quarrel between brothers is read from the 3rd house, the 11th for the eldest brother, and Mars. A malefic in those houses or a weak Mars is how astrologers explain it. In daily life the reason is usually money, land or a parent's care, so both need looking at.

My sister and I stopped talking after her wedding. Can astrology help us reconnect?

Astrology cannot reconnect you on its own, but it can help you choose a calmer time to reach out. An astrologer reads your 3rd or 11th house, depending on whether she is younger or older, and the period you are running. The first message is still yours to send.

Can a Kismo astrologer read my sibling's chart too?

Yes, a Kismo astrologer can read your sibling's chart too if you have their birth date, time and place and they agree to share it. Reading both charts shows whether you are both in a hard period. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.

How is a chat about a sibling fight billed on Kismo?

A chat about a sibling fight on Kismo is billed per started minute at the astrologer's own rate, from ₹15 a minute, the same for chat and call. Your first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed. You top up at least ₹100, and only the minutes you use are charged.

An astrologer says a puja will make my brother apologise. Should I pay?

No, do not pay for a puja sold as a way to make your brother apologise. Nobody can promise how another person acts, and that promise is a common red flag. Simple, free practices and the reading itself come first. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual.