Disputes with in-laws: talk to an astrologer about the conflict between two families
A dispute with in-laws often runs between two whole families, your parents, your spouse's parents and the siblings-in-law, not only inside the couple.
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My parents and my in-laws have not spoken since the wedding, and my sister-in-law makes it worse. My husband is caught in the middle. What does my chart show?
Please share your birth date, time and place. I will read your 9th house for your sisters- and brothers-in-law and your 7th for your husband's family, then the period you are running.
Short answer
A dispute with in-laws is read in Vedic astrology from the 9th house, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra gives to brothers- and sisters-in-law, and from the 7th house as the spouse's family 13. An astrologer can show where the strain sits and which periods look calmer, but cannot change how relatives behave. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about family disputes?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | Conflict between your side and your spouse's side: parents, siblings-in-law, a shared home or business |
| Houses read | 9th for siblings-in-law 1; the 7th and houses counted from it for the spouse's family 23 |
| Without their birth details | A prashna, a chart for the moment you ask, reads the other family from its 7th house 3 |
| If there is harassment | Women Helpline 181, open 24 hours and free 5; 112 for any emergency 6 |
| If there is a legal claim | A lawyer, or free legal aid for women through NALSA on 15100 7 |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check in a dispute with in-laws?
- The 9th house and its lord. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.10 reads brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law from the 9th, so a quarrel with a nanad, devar or saala starts here 1.
- The 7th house as the spouse's family. Prasna Marga 17.9-11 reads the groom from the 7th, and the Sun, Moon and Mars for his father, mother and brothers 3.
- Houses counted from the 7th. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.23 counts relatives from a reference point, and many astrologers count the same way from the 7th for in-laws 2.
- The 4th house if you share a home. A joint household is read from the 4th, where Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.5 places relatives and the home 4.
- The running dasha of both spouses, if both charts are shared. Many astrologers read whether the strain sits in one person's period or in both.
What changes the answer in a dispute with in-laws?
- Which two people are fighting. Your mother against your mother-in-law is read differently from you against a sister-in-law, so name both sides.
- Whether you are the son-in-law or the daughter-in-law. A man in conflict with his wife's family is read from the same houses, counted from his own chart.
- Whether money, gifts or a shared business is involved. A demand for money or dowry is a legal matter first, whatever the chart says.
- Whether anyone is being hurt or threatened. Harassment needs 181, 112 or a lawyer the same day, not a reading.
- Whether the trouble is really inside the couple. When the question is how you and your spouse handle his or her parents, the reading on in-laws in a marriage fits better; other quarrels at home are on family disputes.
How often do disputes with in-laws in India become police cases?
Cruelty by a husband or his relatives was the largest group of crimes against women in India in 2023. Police registered 133,676 such cases under Section 498A, out of 448,211 crimes against women, NCRB data shows 8.
| Case type, India, 2023 | Cases | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Cruelty by husband or his relatives (498A) | 133,676 | 8 |
| Share of all crimes against women | 29.8% (calculated from NCRB totals) | 8 |
| Cases under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 | 15,489 | 8 |
| Dowry deaths | 6,156 | 8 |
Most in-law quarrels never become a case, but the line is clear. Hitting, threats and dowry demands by the husband's family are crimes, and Women Helpline 181 links callers to the police, hospitals, One Stop Centres and the District Legal Services Authority 5.
Legal help costs nothing for many people. NALSA lists women, children, Scheduled Caste and Scheduled Tribe members and low-income people among those who get free legal aid, on the toll-free number 15100 7.
A Kismo astrologer can read your 9th and 7th houses, point to calmer periods and help you plan a talk between the families. An astrologer cannot stop harassment, judge a dowry claim or replace the police, a lawyer or a family counsellor.
Which in-law conflicts need more than a chart reading?
In-law conflicts that stay at the level of words and hurt feelings are a fair question for an astrologer. Conflicts that involve money demands, threats or force need outside help first.
| What is happening | Who helps first |
|---|---|
| The two sets of parents do not speak after the wedding | A calm talk, a family elder, a counsellor; an astrologer can help you time it |
| A sister-in-law or brother-in-law keeps stirring trouble | Your spouse, in private first; an astrologer can read your 9th house |
| Your in-laws ask for money, gold or gifts after the wedding | A lawyer or free legal aid on 15100 7 |
| Someone is hit, locked in or threatened | 112 now, then Women Helpline 181 65 |
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: The 9th house of in-laws is the house of the father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.10 names brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law under the 9th, not the spouse's parents 1. Prasna Marga reads the spouse's parents through the Sun and Moon in relation to the 7th instead 3.
Belief: A daughter-in-law has to accept anything her in-laws do.
Cruelty by a husband's relatives is a crime under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, and dowry demands fall under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 8. Speaking up is a right, not a betrayal of the family.
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Questions worth asking in the session
- What does my 9th house show about my brothers- and sisters-in-law?
- How do you read my spouse's parents from my chart?
- Is the strain in my period, my spouse's period, or both?
- Which months look calmer for a meeting between the two families?
What should I know before booking a session about family disputes?
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|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
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Questions people ask
How do astrologers see the in-laws' family in a birth chart?
Astrologers see the in-laws' family mainly through the 9th house and the 7th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra gives brothers- and sisters-in-law to the 9th. The spouse sits in the 7th, and many astrologers count houses from it to read the spouse's parents. Prasna Marga reads the groom's father and mother through the Sun and Moon in relation to the 7th.
My parents and my in-laws keep fighting. What can I do?
Start by keeping the two sets of parents apart from your marriage's daily life, and let each spouse speak to their own parents. A neutral elder or a family counsellor can help when both sides agree to meet. An astrologer can suggest a calmer period for that meeting, but the talk itself decides what changes.
Can astrology show trouble with my sister-in-law, nanad or jethani?
Yes, astrologers read a sister-in-law from the 9th house, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra links to brothers- and sisters-in-law. A husband's sister and a husband's brother's wife are both read there, together with any planet that rules or sits in it. The reading shows strain, not who is at fault.
My wife's family interferes in our life. Can an astrologer help me as the son-in-law?
Yes, a son-in-law's conflict with his wife's family is read from the same houses in his own chart: the 9th for her siblings and the 7th as her family. An astrologer can show where the strain sits. The practical step is the same as for a daughter-in-law: agree limits with your wife first, then talk together.
Is harassment by in-laws a crime in India?
Yes, cruelty by a husband or his relatives is a crime under Section 498A, and dowry demands fall under the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961. Call 112 in an emergency or Women Helpline 181 at any hour. Then speak to a lawyer, or ask for free legal aid on 15100, before deciding on a police complaint or a case.
Can I ask a Kismo astrologer about my in-laws without their birth details?
Yes, a Kismo astrologer can read your own chart, since in-laws show up in your 9th and 7th houses. If you want a reading for a specific question, many astrologers use a prashna, a chart cast for the moment you ask. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
What does a session about in-law problems cost on Kismo?
A session about in-law problems on Kismo costs the astrologer's own rate per minute, from ₹15 a minute, the same for chat and call. The first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed. You pay from a wallet with a minimum top-up of ₹100, and unused money stays there.
Someone offers vashikaran so my in-laws start liking me. Should I try it?
No, treat an offer of vashikaran on your in-laws as a red flag. It is sold as control over another person, nobody can promise it works, and it usually comes with rising fees. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual, and walk away from anyone who asks for money under pressure.
Talk to an astrologer about family disputes
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11, verse 10: the 9th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 32, verse 23: relatives counted from their significators, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Prasna Marga, Part 2 (tr. B. V. Raman), chapter 17 (Vivaha Prasna), stanzas 9-11 with notes, Internet Archive. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11, verse 5: the 4th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Women Helpline Number 181, Department of Women and Child Development, Government of Haryana. Accessed .
- Now call 112 for help in any emergency, Onmanorama (Malayala Manorama). Accessed .
- Promoting Inclusive Legal System (NALSA helpline 15100 and who qualifies for free legal aid), National Legal Services Authority. Accessed .
- India records close to 4.5 lakh crimes against women in 2023: NCRB report (PTI, 30 September 2025), The Week. Accessed .
