Getting mixed signals in a situationship: talk to an astrologer about your side of it
Mixed signals in a situationship leave you guessing, and an astrologer can read your own Moon, Mercury and question, while the other person's mind stays their own.
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Some days he texts all day and calls me special, then nothing for a week. I can't tell what he wants. What does my chart say?
Please share your birth details and the time you're asking. I start with your Moon and Mercury, since they describe how you take in this back and forth, and then read one prashna question.
Short answer
Mixed signals in a situationship, warm one day and distant the next, cannot be decoded from your chart alone, because they come from another person. Many astrologers read your Moon, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra calls the mind 1, your Mercury for communication, and a prashna for one clear question. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read this by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about situationship?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| What mixed signals look like | Warmth and distance that alternate, plans made then dropped, closeness kept private 3 |
| Planets astrologers read | The Moon for the mind and Mercury for speech, as Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.12 names them 1 |
| Mercury retrograde | About 66 to 67 days a year, 2026 to 2028, calculated from public astronomical data |
| What a reading cannot do | Read the other person's intentions or make them consistent |
| What to bring | Your birth details, the pattern of messages, and one question |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when you are getting mixed signals?
- Your Moon. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.12 calls the Moon the mind, so its sign and company are read for how you are holding the uncertainty 1.
- Your Mercury. The same verse names Mercury the giver of speech, and astrologers read it for how messages are sent and taken 1.
- One prashna question. Prashna Marga reads a single question from the chart of the moment it is asked 2.
- Where Mercury is in the sky now. Some astrologers mention Mercury retrograde periods, while saying they do not explain one person's behaviour.
- Your running dasha. The period you are in is read for whether this is a time of unsettled feelings in general.
What changes the answer when the signals are mixed?
- Whether the pattern is new or has lasted months. A short patch of distance reads differently from a steady hot and cold cycle.
- Whether the closeness is kept hidden. Being kept away from friends and social media is a pattern researchers name, not a chart placement 3.
- How you feel between messages. If waiting for replies fills your days, the reading turns to your own needs and limits.
- Whether you have asked what this is. A clear question to the other person tests the signals better than any reading.
Why do people in situationships send and receive mixed signals?
People in situationships often send mixed signals because the two partners want different things. A study at Curtin University, reviewed by PsyPost, found one partner usually wants commitment while the other prefers to keep it casual 3. Participants called the state a grey area or no man's land 3.
Unpredictable warmth makes such a connection harder to leave. Psychologists call it intermittent reinforcement: affection that comes and goes keeps a person hoping for the next good moment 3. Under the triangular theory of love, a situationship often shows high passion and intimacy with little commitment 3.
| Finding | Figure or result | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Adults surveyed on cycling relationships | 211, about half with at least one break and renewal | 4 |
| Average renewals among those who cycled | 2.66 | 4 |
| Disillusionment in cycling relationships | Higher than in steady ones | 4 |
| Support from friends and family for on-off couples | Lower than for steady couples | 5 |
| Indian youth who oppose celebrating Valentine's Day | 40% | 6 |
In India, many couples keep dating quiet, which removes the public signals others rely on. Two in five young people in the 2016 Lokniti-CSDS survey opposed even celebrating Valentine's Day 6. On-off partners elsewhere also report less support from their social circle 5.
A Kismo astrologer can read your Moon, Mercury and a prashna question, and talk through the pattern calmly in your language. An astrologer cannot tell you what another person secretly intends. If the anxiety is constant, a counsellor can help too.
When is Mercury retrograde in 2026, 2027 and 2028?
Mercury is retrograde three times a year, for about three weeks each time, from 2026 to 2028. These dates were calculated from public astronomical data with the open-source astronomia library, checked daily, in UTC. Many people link these spells to crossed messages; that is a popular belief, not a classical rule.
2026
27 February to 20 March, 30 June to 23 July, 25 October to 13 November; 66 days in all
2027
10 February to 3 March, 11 June to 4 July, 8 October to 28 October; 67 days in all
2028
25 January to 14 February, 22 May to 14 June, 20 September to 11 October; 67 days in all
Mercury is retrograde on about 18% of days, so it cannot explain a pattern that runs for months.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: Mixed signals are caused by Mercury retrograde.
Mercury is retrograde on about 18 days in 100, by calculation, and a hot and cold pattern usually lasts longer than any one spell. Researchers link mixed signals to partners wanting different things 3.
Belief: If someone is hot and cold, they must be a certain type of person.
A 2019 study found no differences in attachment style between people in cycling relationships and steady ones 4. The pattern lives in the relationship, not in a fixed type.
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- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What do my Moon and Mercury show about how I handle uncertainty?
- Can you read one prashna question for the time I first asked it?
- Is my current dasha a period of unsettled feelings in general?
- What would you look at to help me decide what I need from this?
What should I know before booking a session about situationship?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
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Questions people ask
Why does he give me mixed signals if he likes me?
He may like you and still not want what you want, which is the most common reason for mixed signals. Research on situationships finds one partner often wants commitment while the other wants it casual. A chart cannot read his mind, but a direct question to him usually shows where things stand.
What does mixed signals mean in a relationship?
Mixed signals means warmth and distance that alternate, so you cannot tell what the other person wants. Examples are long chats followed by silence, plans made and then dropped, or closeness that is never shown in public. Researchers describe the feeling as a grey area where neither person has named what this is.
Can astrology tell me what he really feels about me?
No, astrology cannot read another person's private feelings. Many astrologers read your own Moon and Mercury and a prashna question for the moment you ask. That describes your side and your timing. What he feels is something only he can tell you.
Is it Mercury retrograde, or is it just him?
Usually it is the pattern between you, not Mercury. Mercury is retrograde about 66 days a year, by calculation from public astronomical data, and a hot and cold cycle tends to run longer than that. Treat the retrograde link as a popular belief and look at the pattern itself.
How do I talk to a Kismo astrologer about mixed signals without sharing his details?
You can talk to a Kismo astrologer using only your own birth details and your question. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Each astrologer sets one rate from ₹15 a minute, and the first session has 5 free minutes, no card needed.
An astrologer offered vashikaran to make him stop the mixed signals. Should I pay?
No, do not pay for vashikaran or any ritual meant to control another person. His behaviour is his choice, and such offers are a common way to take money. Walk away from the offer. On Kismo, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Talk to an astrologer about situationship
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 3: planetary characters (verse 12), Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Prashna Marga with Sanskrit commentary (Nilakantha), Source Library. Accessed .
- The psychology of situationships: what they are and signs you are in one, PsyPost. Accessed .
- There doesn't appear to be a particular type of person who gets into on-off again relationships (on Dailey et al., Journal of Social and Personal Relationships), PsyPost. Accessed .
- On-off relationships positively affect friendships, study finds, UT News, University of Texas at Austin. Accessed .
- Attitudes, anxieties and aspirations of India's youth: changing patterns (CSDS and Konrad Adenauer Stiftung, 2017), Lokniti-CSDS. Accessed .
