Should I walk away from my situationship? Talk to an astrologer about your own timing
Whether to walk away from a situationship is your decision, and an astrologer can help you think about your own needs and timing rather than tell you what to do.
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It's been eight months of not knowing where I stand. I think I should end it but I keep going back. What does my chart say about letting go?
Please share your birth details. I look at your current dasha, your Moon and your 12th house first, then we talk about what you need, because the decision stays yours.
Short answer
Whether to walk away from a situationship is your choice, and no astrologer should make it for you. Many astrologers read your running dasha, your Moon and the 12th house, which Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra links to losses and letting go 1, and some use a single prashna question. Research shows breakups hurt but most people recover. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers talk this through by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about situationship?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The question | Whether to end an undefined connection that is not giving you what you need |
| Who decides | You do; a reading describes your timing and needs, not an order |
| Houses astrologers read | The 12th for losses and letting go 1, the 7th for partnership, the Moon for the mind 2 |
| Breakup pain, average | 6.84 out of 10 for women and 6.58 for men, in a study of 5,705 people in 96 countries 3 |
| What to bring | Your birth details, how long this has lasted, and what you want instead |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when you are thinking of walking away?
- Your 12th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 11.13 lists expenditure, misfortunes and losses there, and many astrologers read it for endings and letting go 1.
- Your Moon. Verse 3.12 calls the Moon the mind, so its condition is read for how much the uncertainty is weighing on you 2.
- Your running dasha. An astrologer looks at which period you are in and when it changes, to talk about your own timing.
- Your 7th house. It is read for partnership in general, so the conversation can turn to what you want next.
- One prashna question, if you want it. A question such as whether to say it this month is read from the time it is asked 4.
What changes the answer when you are thinking of walking away?
- Whether you have said what you want. If you have asked for more and nothing changed, the question becomes how to leave, not whether.
- How much the uncertainty costs you. Losing sleep, focus or friendships over it shifts the weight toward your own wellbeing.
- Whether you keep going back. Cycling out and back in is common, and an astrologer may talk about patterns rather than a single exit.
- Whether the other person has already pulled away. If they have, their choice stands, and the reading is about your path from here.
How hard is it to walk away from a situationship, and do people recover?
Walking away from a situationship is hard, and research shows people do recover. A Binghamton University and University College London study of 5,705 people in 96 countries asked them to rate breakup pain from 1 to 10 3.
| Finding | Figure | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Emotional pain after a breakup, women | 6.84 out of 10 | 3 |
| Emotional pain after a breakup, men | 6.58 out of 10 | 3 |
| Physical pain after a breakup, women | 4.21 out of 10 | 3 |
| Physical pain after a breakup, men | 3.75 out of 10 | 3 |
| Breakups in on-off relationships started by one partner | Most of them | 5 |
| Renewals in on-off relationships that are mutual | About half | 5 |
The same study found women hurt slightly more but tended to recover more fully 3. Leaving is hard partly because needs are met now and then: in the Baylor interviews, inconsistent closeness made it difficult to let go 6. In on-off relationships, most breakups are started by one partner, while about half of the returns are mutual 5.
A Kismo astrologer can read your dasha, Moon and 12th house and help you think about timing in your own language. An astrologer cannot decide for you or bring the other person back. If you feel low most days, talk to a counsellor as well.
How can I decide whether to stay in or leave a situationship?
You can decide whether to stay or leave a situationship by checking what it gives you against what you asked for. These steps keep the decision in your hands, with or without a reading.
- Write down what you want: exclusivity, a label, meeting family, or marriage.
- Say it once, plainly, to the other person, and give a fair time for an answer.
- Notice what happens next, not what is promised.
- If the answer is no or nothing changes, decide how you will end contact and what support you need.
- If you want a reading, ask about your own timing and wellbeing, not about how to change the other person.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If you walk away, the other person will realise your worth and come back.
No reading can promise that, and planning a breakup to make someone return keeps you in the same loop. Most on-off breakups are started by one partner 5; whether they return is their choice.
Belief: Leaving a situationship should not hurt because it was never official.
Breakup pain averages close to 7 out of 10 in a 96-country study 3, and nothing suggests an undefined label makes it painless. Grief over something unnamed is still grief.
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How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about situationship?
- Jyothsna Gosala
Tarot Reading, Life Coach · 1 yrs
English, Telugu, Hindi
★ 4.5 · 5,992 orders · ₹25/min
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Which dasha am I in, and when does it change?
- What do my Moon and 12th house show about letting go right now?
- Can you read one prashna question about whether to say it this month?
- What does my 7th house show about what I need in a partner?
What should I know before booking a session about situationship?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Should I end my situationship?
End it if you have asked for what you want and nothing has changed, or if the uncertainty is costing you sleep, focus or friendships. The decision is yours. Many astrologers read your dasha, Moon and 12th house for timing, but no reading should decide it for you.
How do I get out of a situationship without hurting them?
Be honest, brief and kind: say what you need, say it is not being met, and say you are stepping back. Some hurt may still come, and that is not your fault. Avoid leaving the door half open if you mean to leave. A clear message spares both of you more confusion.
Why is it so hard to leave a situationship when we were never official?
Leaving is hard because closeness that comes now and then keeps you hoping for the next good moment. In the Baylor interviews, people said their needs were met inconsistently, which made letting go difficult. A missing label does not cancel real feelings, so grief after leaving is normal.
Is it better to end a situationship over text or in person?
In person or on a call is usually kinder if you feel safe, and text is fine if you do not. What matters most is a clear message, not the channel. If the other person has been unkind or controlling, choose whatever keeps you calm and safe. If you feel in danger, call Women Helpline 181, or 112 in an emergency 7.
Can I talk to a Kismo astrologer just about letting go, without a prediction?
Yes, you can ask a Kismo astrologer to talk only about your timing and wellbeing, with no prediction. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Each astrologer sets one rate from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute, and the rest stays in your wallet.
An astrologer says I must buy a gemstone before I can move on. Is that a red flag?
Yes, being told you must buy a gemstone to move on is a red flag. Moving on depends on time, support and your own choices, not a purchase. Get a second opinion before paying for anything; on Kismo, pressure or requests for money outside the app are handled by a person.
Talk to an astrologer about situationship
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 11: judgement of houses (verse 13), Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 3: planetary characters (verse 12), Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Study: women hurt more by breakups but recover more fully (Morris et al., Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences, 2015), Newswise, Binghamton University. Accessed .
- Prashna Marga with Sanskrit commentary (Nilakantha), Source Library. Accessed .
- Description and prevalence of on-again/off-again relationships, in On-Again, Off-Again Relationships (R. M. Dailey, 2019), Cambridge University Press. Accessed .
- New psychology research reveals why people stay in situationships (on Langlais et al., Sexuality & Culture, 2025), PsyPost. Accessed .
- India's Commitment to Women's Safety (29 March 2025), Ministry of Women and Child Development, Press Information Bureau. Accessed .
