Will my situationship become a relationship? Ask an astrologer one clear question
Whether a situationship becomes a relationship depends on two people, and an astrologer reads only your side: a prashna chart for your question and the 7th house of your birth chart.
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We've been close for almost a year but he won't make it official. Will this ever become a real relationship?
I'll note the time you asked and cast a prashna for it. I read its 7th house and 7th lord first, then your own 7th house, and then we talk about whether you have asked him directly.
Short answer
No astrologer can promise that a situationship becomes a relationship, because the other person's choice is theirs. Many astrologers answer this question with prashna, a chart for the moment you ask, and read its 7th house and 7th lord, then your own 7th house and dasha. Research adds that talking about the future matters most. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read such questions by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about situationship?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The question | Whether an undefined connection turns into an agreed, committed relationship |
| The usual method | One prashna question, read from the chart of the moment it is asked 1 |
| What is read | The 7th house and 7th lord of the question chart, then your birth chart's 7th house and dasha |
| What research links to commitment | Talking about the future, even vaguely 4 |
| What to bring | The exact question, the time you first asked it, and your birth details |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check to see if a situationship can become a relationship?
- The time of the question. Prashna Marga turns one specific question into a chart for the moment it is asked 1.
- The 7th house of the question chart. Many prashna astrologers read it as the other person and the partnership, as in a birth chart.
- The 7th lord's strength. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.1 reads a 7th lord in its own or exalted sign as full happiness in partnership 2.
- Benefics with the 7th lord. Verse 18.4 reads a 7th lord joined by benefics or strong as a favourable partner 2.
- Your birth chart's dasha. Phaladeepika 10.13 links marriage to the period of a planet in, aspecting or owning the 7th house 3.
What changes the answer to whether a situationship becomes a relationship?
- Whether you have asked the other person directly. A reading is no substitute for that one conversation, and many astrologers will ask about it first.
- Whether the question is asked once. A prashna chart answers the first sincere asking, not the fifth.
- What you mean by a relationship. Exclusivity, meeting family and marriage are different questions with different houses.
- How long it has stayed undefined. Months of no change is information in itself, whatever any chart shows.
What do the classical texts say about a partnership becoming committed?
The classical texts speak of the 7th house and its lord as the seat of partnership and marriage. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra chapter 18 opens by reading a 7th lord in its own or exalted sign as complete happiness from the spouse 2.
Timing comes from the dashas. Phaladeepika chapter 10, verse 13, says marriage may happen in the period of a planet placed in, aspecting or owning the 7th house 3. Verse 6 of the same chapter reads a strong, benefic 7th lord as a good-natured partner 3.
Prashna applies such rules to a question rather than a birth. Prashna Marga is the Kerala manual for doing so, from the sky at the time of inquiry 1. The shares below were calculated from public astronomical data with the open-source astronomia library, for 5,000 random question times in 2026, asked in Delhi.
| Condition in a prashna chart | How many astrologers read it | Share of question times (calculated) |
|---|---|---|
| Venus in the 7th house | Affection present in the partnership | 7.9% |
| Jupiter in the 7th house | A supportive, serious partner | 8.0% |
| Venus, Jupiter or Mercury in the 7th | Benefic support for the partnership | 19.2% |
| Sun, Mars or Saturn in the 7th | Friction or delay | 22.4% |
| 7th lord in the 1st, 4th, 7th or 10th house | A strong 7th lord, read with BPHS 18.1 2 | 28.2% |
| No planet from the Sun to Saturn in the 7th | Read from the 7th lord alone | 60.9% |
Six question times in ten have no planet in the 7th at all, so the 7th lord carries most prashna readings of this question.
What does research say helps a situationship become a relationship?
Research says talking about the future helps most, even when the talk stays vague. In the 2025 Baylor study, such talk went with higher satisfaction and commitment and seemed to ease anxiety 4. Partner effort was linked less strongly than the researchers expected 4.
The lead researcher called a situationship a kind of relationship purgatory, where people test whether they are ready for something official 4. Its interviews covered 10 people aged 18 to 30 4.
Friends shape the path too. A University of Texas study found friends of on-off partners were more likely to interfere and to bring up other possible partners 5. Earlier work on the just talking stage, cited in a PsyPost review, found the same grey area at the very start of dating 6.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: Venus in the 7th of the prashna chart means it will become a relationship.
Venus sits in the 7th of fewer than 1 question chart in 12, by calculation, and astrologers read it with the 7th lord and the rest of the chart. No single placement promises an outcome.
Belief: Effort alone turns a situationship into a relationship.
The Baylor study found partner effort less strongly linked to commitment than talking about the future and putting each other first 4.
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- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
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Questions worth asking in the session
- Can you read a prashna for the time I first asked this question?
- What does the 7th lord show in that chart?
- Which dasha am I running, and does it touch my 7th house?
- What would you want me to ask him before we talk again?
What should I know before booking a session about situationship?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Will my situationship turn into a relationship?
No reading can promise that, because the other person decides for themselves. Many astrologers answer with a prashna chart for the moment you ask, reading its 7th house and 7th lord. Research suggests the strongest signal is whether you two have talked about the future, so that conversation is worth having first.
Can a situationship turn into a relationship after a long time?
Yes, some situationships do become relationships, but time alone does not do it. Studies are snapshots and have not tracked how often this happens. If months pass with no talk about what you are, that is worth noticing. An astrologer can read your 7th house and dasha, and you can ask the question directly.
How can I tell if my situationship wants a real relationship with me?
The clearest sign is that the other person talks about a shared future and makes you a priority. Research links these two things to commitment more than effort or time spent together. Being kept off social media and away from friends points the other way. Asking plainly is the surest test.
Is there a quiz or calculator that tells if my situationship will become a relationship?
No quiz or calculator can tell you that reliably. Online quizzes score your answers, not the other person's intentions. A prashna reading is cast for the moment you ask one sincere question, and even that describes rather than decides. Your own direct conversation gives the clearest answer.
Can I ask a Kismo astrologer a single prashna question about my situationship?
Yes, you can ask one prashna question in a short Kismo session, by chat or call. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Each astrologer sets one rate from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute, so a single question costs only the minutes it takes.
Someone says a puja will make my situationship official. Should I believe it?
No, a puja cannot make another person commit, and such offers are a red flag. The other person's choice belongs to them. Get a second opinion before paying for anything; after a Kismo session you are suggested up to three other astrologers, and pressure to pay outside the app is handled by a person.
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Where do these facts come from?
- Prashna Marga with Sanskrit commentary (Nilakantha), Source Library. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: effects of the 7th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 10: the 7th house (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- New psychology research reveals why people stay in situationships (on Langlais et al., Sexuality & Culture, 2025), PsyPost. Accessed .
- On-off relationships positively affect friendships, study finds, UT News, University of Texas at Austin. Accessed .
- The psychology of situationships: what they are and signs you are in one, PsyPost. Accessed .
