Getting back with an ex who cheated: what can an astrologer tell me before I decide?
Taking back an ex who cheated is your decision, and an astrologer can help you think about your own timing, but cannot prove or disprove what happened.
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My ex cheated on me last year. Now he says he has changed and wants me back. Should I trust him again?
Trust is your decision, and I cannot see into his heart. Share your birth date, time and place. I can read your 7th house, Venus and the period you are in, and we can talk through what you need from him before deciding.
Short answer
Getting back with an ex who cheated is your choice, and no chart can promise it goes differently this time. Research finds people who cheated once are more likely to cheat again, though that is a risk, not a rule. In Vedic astrology an astrologer reads your 7th house, Venus and current dasha to talk about your timing. Kismo astrologers do this by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about ex coming back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | Your ex cheated, the relationship ended, and now one of you wants to try again |
| What the reading is about | Your own chart and timing, and the questions to ask before deciding |
| What an astrologer checks | Your 7th house and its lord, Venus and its sign, and the dasha you are running |
| What astrology cannot do | Prove that someone cheated, or promise they never cheat again |
| If there is abuse or danger | Call 112 or the women helpline 181 first; a lawyer or counsellor before any astrologer 2 |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when my ex cheated and wants to come back?
- Your 7th house and its lord. Phaladeepika chapter 16, sloka 20, reads a 7th house linked to a benefic, with a strong lord, as a partner who lives happily with you 5.
- Venus in your chart. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.13 reads Venus joined with or aspected by Mars as strong desire, which astrologers weigh with the rest of the chart 4.
- Saturn and Mars in the 7th. Verse 18.11 of the same chapter links them, with the 7th lord tied to them, to discord in the home 4.
- The dasha you are running. Many astrologers ask whether your current period supports a fresh start or a pause before deciding.
- The timeline you give. When the cheating happened, when it ended and when your ex returned help the astrologer match your chart to real dates.
What changes the answer when cheating ended the relationship?
- Who cheated. When your ex cheated, the question is trust; when you cheated and want your ex back, the question is whether your ex is willing, and their no stands.
- Whether it was once or a pattern. A single affair that your ex admitted reads very differently from repeated cheating that you found out yourself.
- Whether you were married. If you were married, the reading sits beside legal questions on divorce and maintenance that only a lawyer can answer.
- Whether there was abuse. Cheating with threats, control or violence is a safety matter first; call 112 or 181 before thinking about any reading 2.
Does someone who cheated once cheat again, according to research?
A University of Denver study of 484 adults followed people through two relationships over several years 1. Those who cheated in their first relationship were three times more likely to report cheating in the next one 1.
The same study found a pattern on the other side too. People who knew their first partner had cheated were twice as likely to report cheating by their next partner 1. People who only suspected it were four times more likely to suspect the next partner 1.
| Finding in the Denver study | Compared with people without that history |
|---|---|
| Cheated in the first relationship, reported cheating in the next | 3 times more likely 1 |
| Knew the first partner cheated, reported the next partner cheating | 2 times more likely 1 |
| Suspected the first partner, suspected the next partner | 4 times more likely 1 |
In India, cheating is no longer a crime. A five-judge bench of the Supreme Court struck down the adultery law, Section 497 of the IPC, on 27 September 2018 in Joseph Shine v. Union of India 3. Questions about divorce or maintenance after cheating belong with a lawyer.
Women facing violence can call Women Helpline 181, which runs around the clock, and anyone in an emergency can call 112, which joins police, fire and ambulance numbers 2. An astrologer can help you think about your own timing and what you want, but cannot judge whether your ex has changed.
What happens in a session about taking back an ex who cheated?
A session about an ex who cheated usually moves through four steps, and you can stop at any point.
- You share your birth details and a short timeline: when you met, when the cheating came out, when you split and when your ex returned.
- The astrologer reads your 7th house, Venus and your current dasha, and says what the chart shows about this period for you.
- You ask your own questions, such as whether this is a time for a fresh start or a time to heal alone first.
- The astrologer names what the chart cannot show, such as your ex's intentions, and suggests you talk to a counsellor if trust or safety is the real issue.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: Once a cheater, always a cheater.
The Denver study found higher odds of cheating again, not certainty, and a higher risk across a group is not a verdict on one person 1.
Belief: An astrologer can see in a chart whether my ex really cheated.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.12 links Venus in a sign of Mars with an unfaithful partner, but millions of people share that placement, and no chart proves what one person did 4.
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- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about ex coming back?
- Jyothsna Gosala
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How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Does my current dasha suit a fresh start or a period of healing?
- What does my 7th house say about the kind of partnership I need?
- Which planets in my chart show how I handle trust and hurt?
- If I wait six months before deciding, what does my timing look like then?
What should I know before booking a session about ex coming back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
My ex cheated on me and wants me back. Should I get back with him?
Only you can decide whether to get back with an ex who cheated. Ask what has actually changed, whether he took responsibility without blaming you, and whether you could trust him without checking his phone. Research shows people who cheated once are more likely to repeat it, but higher odds are not a certainty. A counsellor can help you both talk it through.
Is it a bad idea to get back with an ex who cheated?
It is not always a bad idea, but it carries real risk. The University of Denver study found people who cheated were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship. Couples who rebuild usually do it with honesty, time and often counselling. If you feel pressured, or the cheating came with control or threats, step back.
I cheated on my ex and want her back. Can astrology help?
Astrology can help you look at your own chart and timing, but it cannot change your ex's mind. If she has said no or stopped replying, her choice stands. Many astrologers suggest using this time to understand why you cheated, ideally with a counsellor, before thinking about any reunion.
Can a birth chart show whether my partner cheats?
No, a birth chart cannot prove whether a partner cheats. Classical texts do link some Venus and 7th house placements with desire or unfaithfulness, but many people with those placements stay faithful all their lives. Reading someone's chart to accuse them is unfair. Judge your ex by what they do, not by their planets.
Can I talk to an astrologer about my cheating ex in private on Kismo?
Yes, you can talk to an astrologer about a cheating ex on Kismo by chat or call, from anywhere. Each astrologer sets one rate, from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute, and the first session carries 5 free minutes. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
An astrologer says a puja will stop my ex from cheating again. Is that true?
No ritual can promise that someone never cheats again, so treat that offer as a red flag. Behaviour changes through honesty and effort, not payments. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you to pay for rituals or asks for money outside the app is a misconduct case handled by a person. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual.
My husband cheated. Is adultery still a crime in India?
No, adultery is no longer a crime in India. The Supreme Court struck down Section 497 of the IPC on 27 September 2018. Cheating can still matter in divorce and maintenance cases, so speak to a family lawyer about your rights. If there is violence, call 112 or the women helpline 181.
How long should I wait before deciding to take back an ex who cheated?
There is no fixed waiting time, but many counsellors suggest not deciding while the hurt is fresh. Give yourself enough time to feel calm when you think about the cheating. Some people ask an astrologer about the dasha and transits in the months ahead, as one input among several, before deciding.
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Where do these facts come from?
- Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Serial Infidelity Across Subsequent Relationships (Knopp, Scott, Ritchie, Rhoades, Markman and Stanley, Archives of Sexual Behavior 46(8), 2017), University of Denver Digital Commons. Accessed .
- India's Commitment to Women's Safety (Ministry of Women and Child Development, March 2025), Press Information Bureau, Government of India. Accessed .
- Joseph Shine v. Union of India (Decriminalisation of Adultery), WP (Crl.) 194/2017, Supreme Court Observer. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: the 7th house, verses 11-13, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 16: general effects of the 12 bhavas (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
