Still thinking about an ex years later? Talk to an astrologer about the period you are in now
Months or years after a breakup, the chart you are living in has moved on, and a reading starts from the period you are running today.
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We split up four years ago and I never really got over her. She liked my photo last week. Is there anything between us still?
Thank you for telling me. Please share your birth date, time and place, and the year you broke up. I'll compare the period you were in then with the one you're in now, and we'll look at what has really changed.
Short answer
Years after a breakup, no chart can promise an old love returns, because both of you have lived years the other has not seen. Astrologers read the dasha you are in now, which has usually changed since the breakup, and what it shows for old bonds and new ones. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your current period by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about getting an ex back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | A breakup a year or more ago, and the person still on your mind |
| What has changed in the chart | The antardasha almost always, the mahadasha often (calculation below) |
| What an astrologer reads | The mahadasha and antardasha now, the planets ruling them, and your 7th house |
| What it cannot answer | Who your ex has become, or whether they think of you |
| What to bring | Your birth date, exact time and place, the year you broke up, and any recent contact |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when the breakup was years ago?
- The dasha at the time of the breakup. The astrologer works out which mahadasha and antardasha were running then, from the Moon's star at birth 2.
- The dasha now. The same count gives today's periods, and the astrologer compares the two planets' natures.
- The planet whose period is running. Phaladeepika 19.26 reads the Venus period as one that brings a wife and comforts, and also separation from elders 2.
- Your 7th house and its lord, read again for the present period rather than the past one.
- Life since then. A marriage, a move abroad or a child on either side changes what the astrologer can usefully say.
What changes the answer when years have passed since the breakup?
- How many years have passed. After one year your sub-period has probably changed; after five or ten, your main period may have too.
- Whether either of you is now married or committed. Their relationship is theirs to keep, and the reading then turns to you.
- Who reached out, if anyone. A message from them, a like, or only your own memories each lead to a different conversation.
- Whether the old reason for the breakup still holds. Family, distance or values that ended it once may still be there.
How likely is it that my dasha has changed since the breakup?
Your antardasha has very likely changed if the breakup was more than a year ago. The shares below are calculated from the Vimshottari period lengths, for a moment picked at random in the 120-year cycle.
| Time since the breakup | Antardasha has changed | Mahadasha has changed |
|---|---|---|
| 6 months | 32.8% | 3.8% |
| 1 year | 59.3% | 7.5% |
| 2 years | 85.4% | 15.0% |
| 3 years | 99.4% | 22.5% |
| 5 years | 100% | 37.5% |
| 10 years | 100% | 66.7% |
The 81 sub-periods range from 3.6 months, the Sun within the Sun, to 3 years and 4 months, Venus within Venus. So someone who broke up during a Venus sub-period may still be in it two years on.
What do the classical texts say about time passing after a breakup?
The classical texts measure a life in planetary periods, not in single events. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 46.14 sets the full Vimshottari cycle at 120 years 1.
Phaladeepika 19.2 gives each planet's share of that cycle, from 6 years for the Sun to 20 years for Venus 2. Venus, the planet most astrologers read for love, has the longest main period of all.
Phaladeepika 19.12 describes the Venus period as one of comforts, travel, learning and pleasure in company 2. Astrologers often say a breakup in one period is felt very differently once a new period begins.
The texts also expect more than one bond across a life. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.41 names years for a second and third marriage in some charts 3, so a past relationship is not treated as the only one possible.
| Text and verse | What it says | Why it matters years later |
|---|---|---|
| BPHS 46.14 1 | A full Vimshottari cycle is 120 years | Your period now is a different stretch of that cycle |
| Phaladeepika 19.2 2 | Main periods run from 6 years (Sun) to 20 years (Venus) | A long period can still be running; a short one has likely ended |
| Phaladeepika 19.12 2 | The Venus period brings comforts, travel and company | Many astrologers read it as open to connection, old or new |
| BPHS 18.41 3 | Some charts show a second and third marriage | The texts do not treat one past bond as the only one |
What happens in a reading about an ex from years ago?
A reading about an ex from years ago compares two periods of your life: the one you broke up in and the one you live in now. This is an example of how many astrologers structure it, not a real client's chat.
- You give your birth details and the year, or better the month, of the breakup.
- The astrologer works out which mahadasha and antardasha were running then, and which are running now.
- The astrologer compares the two ruling planets and explains how the present period is read for relationships.
- You talk about what has happened since, on your side and, if you know, on theirs.
- The astrologer says what the chart suggests for this period, and you decide whether to reach out, wait or let go.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If you still think about an ex after years, they must be your destined partner.
Lasting feelings say a lot about the bond you had, and little about destiny. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra chapter 18 describes the kind of partner a chart shows, never one named person 3.
Belief: The same chart answer from years ago still applies today.
Phaladeepika 19.3 times the first period from the Moon's star at birth, and each later period follows in a fixed order 2. A reading from years ago was made for a period that has since moved on.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about getting an ex back?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Which dasha was I in when we broke up, and which one am I in now?
- How is my current mahadasha read for love and old bonds?
- When does my current antardasha end?
- Does my 7th house look different for this period than for the last one?
- If I reach out, is there a better or worse stretch of the next year?
What should I know before booking a session about getting an ex back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Do exes come back after years? We broke up three years ago.
There can be, but no chart can promise it, because three years change both people. An astrologer reads the period you are in now, which has almost certainly changed since then, and what it shows for relationships. The rest depends on where your ex is in life and whether they want the same.
Why do I still think about my ex after so many years?
Thinking about an ex years later is common and does not by itself mean the relationship should return. Strong first loves, an unclear ending or loneliness now can all keep a memory alive. An astrologer can read your present period, and a counsellor can help if the thoughts stop you living your life.
My ex came back after 2 years. What should I look at in my chart?
Look first at the antardasha you are in now and the planet ruling it, because two years is long enough for it to have changed. Many astrologers also read the current transits over your 7th house. Then compare that with what the message actually says, and what you want from it.
Does a new mahadasha mean a new chance with an old love?
A new mahadasha is read as a new chapter, but it does not point to any one person. Astrologers read the new period's planet for how you relate, what you want and who you attract. Whether that includes an old love depends on choices, yours and theirs, more than on the period.
Is it possible to get back with an ex after years without contact?
It is possible, but reach out only if you can accept any answer, including silence or a polite no. Keep the first message short and without pressure. If your ex is married or in a relationship, respect it. An astrologer can help you think about timing, but the decision and its kindness are yours.
Can I ask a Kismo astrologer about an old relationship in Hindi or Tamil?
Yes, you can ask about an old relationship in your own language on Kismo. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Astrologers set one per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, and your first session has 5 free minutes.
An astrologer says my ex is my destined soulmate and asks for a puja fee. Is that a red flag?
Yes, being told someone is your destined soulmate and then asked for a ritual fee is a red flag. No reading can bind another person to you, and no one can promise a puja brings them back. Get a second opinion first. On Kismo, pressure or asking for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Talk to an astrologer about getting an ex back
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Where do these facts come from?
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 46: Vimshottari dasha, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 19: dasas and their effects (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: the 7th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
