My ex ghosted me: will my ex come back after ghosting, and what can an astrologer see?
Being ghosted leaves you without an answer, and a reading can help you with your own closure and timing, while respecting that your ex chose silence.
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My boyfriend of two years just stopped replying. No fight, no goodbye. It's been three weeks. Will he come back or should I move on?
I am sorry, silence without a reason is painful. I cannot see why he stopped, and I do not want you to chase him. Share your birth date, time and place, or let me cast a prashna for this moment, and we can look at your own coming weeks.
Short answer
When an ex ghosts you, some do reach out again later, but no astrologer can tell you for certain if or when yours does. The silence is your ex's choice, and chasing it rarely brings an answer. In Vedic astrology a reading looks at your Moon, Mercury and the 11th house of news to help you find closure. Kismo astrologers do this by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about ex coming back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | Your ex stopped replying without explaining, during or after the relationship |
| What the reading is about | Your own closure, coping and timing, not reaching your ex |
| What an astrologer checks | Your Moon, Mercury, the 11th house, and a prashna chart for your question |
| What it cannot answer | Why your ex went silent, or the date your ex messages again |
| If the silence is wearing you down | A counsellor or doctor first; a reading can come later |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check after my ex ghosted me?
- Your Moon. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 3.12 names the Moon as the mind, so astrologers read it for how the silence is affecting you 4.
- Mercury. The same verse names Mercury as the giver of speech, and many astrologers read it when a question is about words that stopped 4.
- The 11th house. Phaladeepika chapter 1, sloka 15, lists pleasing news among the 11th house's meanings, so it is read for news you hope to hear 5.
- A prashna chart. Prasna Marga, a 17th-century manual of horary astrology, reads a chart cast for the moment you ask, which suits a question your ex's silence leaves open 6.
- Your running dasha. Many astrologers look at which period you are in to suggest when to rest, and when to look forward.
What changes the answer when my ex ghosted me instead of breaking up?
- How long you were together. Silence after a few dates is common; silence after years together is rarer and usually deserves a clear goodbye.
- Whether your ex came back and ghosted again. A pattern of leaving and returning is about how your ex handles closeness, not about your stars.
- Whether you are blocked or only unanswered. Being blocked is a firmer message than silence; that case has its own page in this section.
- Whether something may have happened. If a long silence is unlike your ex and you fear for their safety, contact their family or friends.
How common is being ghosted by a partner, according to research?
About one person in four has been ghosted by a partner. Gili Freedman and colleagues surveyed 554 and then 747 American adults, and in both studies about 25% said a partner had ghosted them 1. About 20% said they had ghosted someone themselves 1.
Most people see ghosting as an unfair way to end a long relationship. In the first Freedman survey, only 4.7% found it acceptable for a long-term romantic relationship, against 28% after one date 1. And 69.1% said learning someone had ghosted a partner made them think worse of that person 1.
| Finding | Share | Source |
|---|---|---|
| US adults ghosted by someone they dated | 19% of 7,180 | YouGov, October 2021 2 |
| Find ghosting acceptable after one date | 28% | Freedman and colleagues, via Seidman 1 |
| Find ghosting acceptable in a long-term relationship | 4.7% | Freedman and colleagues, via Seidman 1 |
| Think worse of someone who ghosted a partner | 69.1% | Freedman and colleagues, via Seidman 1 |
Freedman's team also found people who believe relationships are simply meant to be or not were more likely to ghost 1. If the silence is wearing you down, Tele-MANAS gives free counselling around the clock on 14416 or 1-800-891-4416, in about 20 languages 3. An astrologer can help with your timing and closure, but cannot explain your ex's silence.
What should I do in the first weeks after my ex ghosts me?
The first weeks after being ghosted usually move from shock to acceptance, and each phase asks something different of you.
| Phase | What it often feels like | What helps |
|---|---|---|
| First few days | Checking your phone, replaying the last chat | Send one calm message at most, then stop |
| Weeks two to four | Anger, self-blame, wanting an explanation | Talk to friends, keep a routine, mute their profiles |
| After a month | Missing them in waves, less often | Write the goodbye you never got, and keep it |
| If they return | Hope mixed with doubt | Ask why they left before deciding anything |
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: My ex ghosted me because of a bad planetary period in my chart.
Ghosting is a choice a person makes; Freedman's research ties it to beliefs about relationships, not to the stars of the person left behind 1.
Belief: If I keep messaging, my ex has to answer eventually.
Silence is an answer in itself, and repeated messages rarely change it. Your ex's choice stands, and one calm message is enough.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about ex coming back?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What does my Moon show about how I am coping right now?
- Can you cast a prashna for my question since I have no answer from my ex?
- Which dasha am I in, and when does it suit a fresh start?
- What can I do in the next month to feel steadier?
What should I know before booking a session about ex coming back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Will my ex come back after ghosting me?
Some exes who ghost do reach out again, often weeks or months later, but nobody can promise yours does. Waiting for it can keep you stuck. An astrologer can read your own Moon and dasha to talk about your coming weeks. If your ex does return, ask for an honest reason before deciding anything.
Why would my ex ghost me after a long relationship?
An ex may ghost after a long relationship to avoid a hard conversation, guilt, or conflict. Research by Freedman and colleagues found people who believe relationships are simply meant to be or not were more likely to ghost. The reason is about your ex's way of coping, and it does not measure your worth.
My ex ghosted me and came back. Should I reply?
You can reply if you want to, but you do not owe a quick answer. Ask why your ex disappeared and what has changed, and notice whether the answer is honest. If your ex has ghosted you more than once, the pattern matters more than the apology. Take a day before deciding.
Can a prashna reading tell me if my ex replies?
A prashna reading cannot tell you for certain whether your ex replies. Prashna, or horary astrology, reads a chart cast for the moment you ask, and many astrologers use it when birth details are missing. It can help you think about the question and your timing, but the reply is your ex's choice.
Can I talk to an astrologer at night about being ghosted on Kismo?
Yes, Kismo works online at any hour, and astrologers who are online reply by chat or call, with an average first reply in 9 seconds. Each astrologer sets one rate, from ₹15 a minute. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
An astrologer says my ex ghosted me because of black magic. Is that true?
Treat a black magic explanation as a red flag, especially if it comes with an offer to remove it for money. People go silent for ordinary human reasons. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you or asks for money outside the app is a misconduct case handled by a person. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual.
Should I text my ex who ghosted me to get closure?
One short, calm message is fine if it helps you, but expect no reply. Say what you need to say, then stop. Closure usually comes from you, not from your ex's answer. Writing a letter you never send can help too. If the silence keeps you awake for weeks, talk to a counsellor.
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Where do these facts come from?
- What Do We Know About Ghosting? (on Freedman, Powell, Le and Williams, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 2019), Psychology Today (Gwendolyn Seidman, Ph.D.). Accessed .
- Have you ever been ghosted by a friend, family member, or someone you dated? (daily question, 21 October 2021), YouGov. Accessed .
- External 24x7 Counselling by Tele MANAS, Indian Institute of Technology Kanpur, Counselling Service. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 3: planets, verses 12-13, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 1: definitions (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Prasna Marga: English translation, with original text in Devanagari, and notes (B. V. Raman, Motilal Banarsidass, 1991-1992), Wellcome Collection. Accessed .
