Ex coming back

My ex has a new partner: will my ex come back, and what can an astrologer tell me?

When your ex is already with someone new, an astrologer can read your own chart and timing, but nobody can or should decide what your ex does next.

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My ex got a new girlfriend three months after we broke up. I still want him back. Is there any chance he comes back to me?

I understand this hurts. His new relationship is his choice, so I do not work against it. Share your birth date, time and place, and I can read your 7th house, Venus and the period you are in, so we can talk about your own timing in love.

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Short answer

When your ex has a new girlfriend or boyfriend, no astrologer can say for certain that your ex comes back, and none should try to break the new relationship. In Vedic astrology the reading turns to your own chart: the 7th house, Venus and the dasha you are running, which show your timing in love. Kismo astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.

Key facts

What are the key facts about ex coming back?

	Answer
The situation	Your ex has started a new relationship, quickly or months after the breakup
What the reading is about	Your own chart, timing and choices, not ending the new relationship
What an astrologer checks	Your 7th house and its lord, Venus, your running dasha, and transits over your Moon
What it cannot answer	Whether the new relationship lasts, or what your ex feels today
What to bring	Your birth date, exact birth time and birth place; your ex's only if you already have them
Session on Kismo	From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad

What gets checked

What does an astrologer check when my ex has a new partner?

Your 7th house. Phaladeepika chapter 1, sloka 13, lists desire, passion and the spouse among the things this house shows ⁴.
The dasha of your 7th lord. Phaladeepika chapter 20 reads a strong 7th lord's period as time with a beloved, and a weak one's as separation from a beloved ⁵.
Jupiter's transit from your Moon. Phaladeepika chapter 26, sloka 19, reads Jupiter in the 7th from the Moon as a happy time with one's partner ⁶.
Venus's transit from your Moon. The same chapter, sloka 21, reads Venus in the 7th from the Moon as a time of trouble for the partner, and many astrologers wait out such a transit before acting ⁶.
A prashna chart for your question. Prasna Marga, a 17th-century manual of horary astrology, reads a chart cast for the moment a question is asked, which needs no birth details from your ex ⁷.

Your situation

What changes the answer when my ex is already with someone new?

How fast the new relationship began. A new partner within weeks reads differently to most astrologers than one who arrived a year later, because the timing in your ex's life has moved on.
Whether your ex still contacts you. An ex in a new relationship who keeps texting you is a question about honesty to discuss, not a sign the stars are calling you back.
Whose chart is read. Your own chart is yours to share; reading your ex's chart or the new partner's chart without their knowledge is something many astrologers decline.
What you want from the answer. Asking when love comes into your life again gets a fuller reading than asking how to take someone away from another person.

What research shows

What do studies say about an ex who moves on to a new relationship quickly?

Psychologists Claudia Brumbaugh and R. Chris Fraley studied people who had recently broken up and found that those who started a new relationship sooner reported higher well-being and self-esteem ¹. The same work found that people who moved on fast also compared the new partner with the old one more often ¹.

Rebounds usually start early. Sex researcher Justin Lehmiller summarises a study of college students in which about two-thirds had sex in the three months after a breakup, and about a third of them did so for rebound reasons ³. He notes that distress tends to peak around two weeks after a split and starts to ease around four weeks ³.

Missing the old partner can weigh on the new couple. Social psychologist Erica Slotter cites work by Spielmann and colleagues linking longing for an ex with lower quality in the new relationship ². She also cites research that trying to push thoughts of a former partner away made people think about that person more ².

Finding	What it suggests	Source
Students who had sex within three months of a breakup	About two in three	Lehmiller, Psychology Today ³
Of those, sex for rebound reasons	About one in three	Lehmiller, Psychology Today ³
Breakup distress peaks	Around two weeks after the split	Lehmiller, Psychology Today ³
Time between divorce and remarriage	No effect on how stable the second marriage was	Slotter, Psychology Today ²

None of these numbers says anything about one couple. An astrologer can help you understand your own chart, your timing and what you want next. An astrologer cannot tell you what your ex feels, and should never offer to end the new relationship.

Before you decide

Should I wait for my ex who is dating someone else?

Waiting for an ex who is dating someone else is a personal choice, and these questions help you make it with open eyes.

Have you told your ex clearly how you feel, once, without pressure?
Is your ex being honest with the new partner about contact with you?
Are you pausing your own life, studies or work while you wait?
Would you still want this person if the relationship started again exactly as it ended?
Have you set yourself a date to stop waiting and look again at what you want?

Myths and facts

What do people get wrong about this?

Belief: If my ex moved on fast, the new relationship is only a rebound and cannot last.

Brumbaugh and Fraley found that quick new relationships were linked to higher well-being, so a fast start says little about how long a relationship lasts ¹.

Belief: A ritual can end my ex's new relationship and bring my ex back.

No classical text gives a rule for ending another person's relationship, and pressure to pay for such a ritual is a red flag. Your ex's choice stands.

Before you pay anyone

How do you know an astrologer is genuine?

Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.

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How does a consultation on Kismo work?

Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
Share your date, time and place of birth.
Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.

Questions worth asking in the session

Which dasha am I running now, and what does it show for my love life?
What does my 7th house and its lord say about the kind of partner I attract?
Is Jupiter or Venus transiting my 7th from the Moon this year?
What should I focus on for myself in the next six months?

Before you book

What should I know before booking a session about ex coming back?

Question	Answer
What does a session cost?	Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026).
Is the first session free?	5 free minutes on the first session, no card.
Chat or call?	Both. You choose when you start the session.
Do I need an exact birth time?	It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you.
Is my chat private?	Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy.
What if I am not happy?	There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person.
Where does it work?	Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries.

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FAQ

Questions people ask

Will my ex come back if he has a new girlfriend?

Nobody can say for certain whether your ex comes back while he is with someone new. Some exes do return after a new relationship ends, yet each case is different. An astrologer can read your own chart and timing in love. Your ex's choice to be with someone new stands, and no honest reading works against it.

My ex has a new partner but still contacts me. What does that mean?

An ex who contacts you while in a new relationship may miss you, feel unsure, or simply want comfort. Only your ex can tell you which it is. Ask yourself whether the contact is honest with the new partner, and whether it helps you heal or keeps you waiting. A clear conversation answers more than a chart.

My ex got a new girlfriend right after we broke up. Is it a rebound?

It may be, but a quick new relationship is not always a rebound that fails. Brumbaugh and Fraley found people who start again soon often report higher well-being and self-esteem, though they also compare the new partner with the old one more often. How long it lasts depends on the two people in it.

Can astrology tell me if my ex's new relationship will last?

Astrology cannot tell you that fairly without both people's consent and birth details, and many astrologers decline to try. What a reading can do is look at your own chart: your 7th house, Venus and current dasha, which in Vedic astrology describe your timing in love. That answer is about your path, not theirs.

Is it wrong to want my ex back when they have someone new?

No, wanting someone back is a normal feeling after a breakup, and it is not wrong to feel it. What matters is what you do with it. Telling your ex once is honest; pressuring them or trying to break up the new couple is not. A counsellor or trusted friend can help you sort the feeling out.

What does a chart reading cost on Kismo if my ex is seeing someone else?

Asking about your ex on Kismo costs the astrologer's own rate, from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute from your wallet. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. The first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed, and the minimum top-up is ₹100.

An astrologer says vashikaran can break up my ex's new relationship. Should I pay?

No, do not pay. An offer to control your ex or break up the new relationship is a red flag, and it ignores your ex's own choice. On Kismo, an astrologer who pressures you or asks for money outside the app is a misconduct case handled by a person, and you can report it. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual.

Why do I feel so hurt that my ex has a new partner?

Seeing your ex with someone new reopens the loss, because it makes the breakup feel final. The hurt is common and usually eases with time, rest and people who support you. If the pain stops you sleeping, eating or working for weeks, talk to a counsellor or doctor, who can help in ways an astrologer cannot.