In no contact with your ex? Talk to an astrologer about the silence and what comes after
No contact works best as time for your own recovery, not as a tactic to make an ex miss you, and a reading can help you use the period well.
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I've been in no contact with my ex for 23 days. It's so hard. Is he thinking about me, and when should I break the silence?
Twenty-three days is a real effort. I can't see his thoughts, but I can read your chart. Share your birth date, time and place, and I'll look at the period you're in and whether it favours waiting or reaching out.
Short answer
No contact cannot make an ex come back; their choice stays theirs. What it can do is give you room to recover at your own pace. An astrologer can read the period you are in and whether it suits keeping the silence or ending it kindly. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about getting an ex back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | You have stopped calling, texting and messaging your ex, by choice or by agreement |
| Common names | No contact rule, no contact period, 30 days no contact, cutting contact |
| What an astrologer reads | Your antardasha, its end date, and transits over your 7th house and Venus |
| What it cannot answer | Whether your ex is missing you, or if the silence changes their mind |
| What to bring | Your birth details and the date the no contact began |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check during no contact with an ex?
- The antardasha and its end date. Astrologers time the silence against the sub-period, since Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 46.3 makes Vimshottari the principal timing system 4.
- Transits over your 7th house and over natal Venus, which many astrologers watch for a natural moment to reach out or to close.
- Your natal Venus and 7th lord, which show how you hold on and how you let go in many astrologers' reading.
- Why you chose no contact. Silence chosen to heal, to stop a fight or to protect yourself leads to very different advice.
- Whether your ex has already said no. If they have, the astrologer reads your own next steps, not a return.
What changes the answer when you are in no contact?
- Why you started it. No contact to heal is different from no contact used to make someone chase you, and many astrologers say so plainly.
- Whether it is mutual. If your ex asked for space, keeping it is a matter of respect, not strategy.
- Shared ties. A shared child, home, office or friend group means some contact is unavoidable, and the reading turns to calm, limited contact instead.
- Whether you still watch them online. Checking their profiles is contact in all but name, and it changes how the silence feels.
Does staying away from an ex really help you get over them?
Staying away from an ex tends to help recovery, though no study tests the 'no contact rule' by name. A diary study of 58 young adults after a breakup found that contact with the former partner slowed the fading of love and sadness 2.
Online contact counts too. In a survey of 464 people, watching an ex's Facebook profile went with more distress, more longing and less personal growth 1.
The same study found that people who stayed Facebook friends with an ex reported less longing but also less personal growth 1. The author concluded that exposure to an ex online may obstruct moving on 1.
A United States study of 1,295 unmarried adults found a similar sign. Continued contact with an ex after a breakup went with slightly larger drops in life satisfaction 3.
These studies show links, not proof, and none of them measured whether an ex returned. A Kismo astrologer can read your period and help you decide when to end the silence; an astrologer cannot tell you what your ex feels.
What else do people ask about no contact and astrology?
People in no contact ask an astrologer the same few things. These are short answers; the session goes deeper with your own chart.
| Question | Short answer |
|---|---|
| Is no contact the same as ghosting? | No; no contact usually follows a clear ending, while ghosting leaves the other person with no answer at all |
| Does muting or archiving count as no contact? | Yes, many people mute instead of blocking so they stop checking without a dramatic step |
| Can I wish them on their birthday? | You can, but a birthday message restarts contact, so decide first what you want from it |
| Is no contact cruel? | Not when it is used to heal and the ending was already said; it is cruel when used to punish |
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: No contact works on anyone if you keep it long enough.
No timing method claims to change another person's will. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 46.3 sets out dasha periods to time your own life 4, not to steer someone else's.
Belief: If my ex doesn't reach out during no contact, my chart shows we're over.
A chart is read for your own periods, which run for months and years 4. Your ex's silence is their choice, not a line in your kundli.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about getting an ex back?
- Jyothsna Gosala
Tarot Reading, Life Coach · 1 yrs
English, Telugu, Hindi
★ 4.5 · 5,992 orders · ₹25/min
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Which antardasha am I in, and when does it end?
- Is this period better for keeping the silence or ending it?
- What do transits over my 7th house look like in the next three months?
- What does my Venus show about how I let go?
- If I reach out, what is a respectful way and time to do it?
What should I know before booking a session about getting an ex back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Does no contact work to get an ex back?
No, no contact does not make an ex come back; it gives both of you space, and what your ex does with it is their choice. Time apart is for your own recovery first. If your ex does reach out, you can then decide with a clearer head whether you want to reply.
How long should no contact last after a breakup, 30 days or 60?
There is no proven number of days for no contact. Thirty days is a popular rule of thumb, but recovery follows your own pace. Many astrologers prefer to look at when your current sub-period changes rather than counting a fixed number of days. Stop counting when the count becomes the obsession.
My ex broke no contact after three weeks. What should I do?
First read what your ex actually said, and notice how you feel. A short, kind reply keeps you honest without promising anything. If the reason you split still stands, you can say so. An astrologer can read your period, but the message and your reply are real events to handle on their own terms.
Is it okay to check my ex's Instagram during no contact?
It is common, but each look tends to reopen the wound and restart the waiting. Muting or archiving their profile is a gentle way to stop without making a statement. If you keep checking, tell your astrologer or counsellor honestly; it changes the advice.
Can no contact astrology tell me the right day to reach out?
No astrologer can promise a right day, but many can suggest a better or worse stretch from your dasha and transits. Use that as a guide for your own readiness. Reaching out when you feel calm and have nothing to prove usually matters more than the date.
Is a quick no contact check-in with an astrologer on Kismo paid per minute?
Yes, a no contact check-in on Kismo is paid per minute at the astrologer's own rate, from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Your first session carries 5 free minutes, and the minimum top-up is ₹100.
An astrologer says I must pay for a ritual during no contact or my ex will marry someone else. Is that a red flag?
Yes, a deadline plus a ritual fee is a classic pressure tactic. No one can know what your ex will do, and no ritual changes it. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, misconduct such as pressure or asking for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Talk to an astrologer about getting an ex back
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Where do these facts come from?
- Facebook surveillance of former romantic partners: Associations with post-breakup recovery and personal growth (Marshall, Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 2012), Brunel University Research Archive. Accessed .
- The emotional sequelae of nonmarital relationship dissolution: Analysis of change and intraindividual variability over time (Sbarra and Emery, Personal Relationships, 2005), University of Arizona. Accessed .
- Breaking up is hard to do: The impact of unmarried relationship dissolution on mental health and life satisfaction (Rhoades et al., Journal of Family Psychology, 2011), PubMed Central, US National Library of Medicine. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 46: Vimshottari dasha, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
