Want your ex-husband or ex-wife back after divorce? Talk to an astrologer about the marriage chart
Getting back together after a divorce or separation is a legal, family and money question as much as a matter of feelings, and a reading covers only one part.
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Our divorce came through last year. My ex-husband has started calling again and says he has changed. Is getting back together written in my chart?
Please share your birth details, and his if you have them, with the wedding and divorce dates. I'll read your 7th house and navamsha and the period you're in now. For anything legal or about safety, please also speak to a lawyer.
Short answer
After a divorce, no chart can decide whether you and your ex-spouse reunite; that rests on both of you, and the legal steps rest with a lawyer. Astrologers read the 7th house, its lord, Venus and the navamsha for what the marriage showed and the period you are in now. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about getting an ex back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | A divorce, a pending case, or a separation without a decree |
| What an astrologer reads | The 7th house and its lord, Venus, the navamsha chart and the current dasha |
| What it cannot answer | Legal rights, custody, maintenance or property; ask a family lawyer |
| If there was violence | Call 181, the women helpline, or 112 in an emergency, before anything else |
| What to bring | Both birth details if you have them, the wedding date, and the separation or decree date |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check when you want an ex-spouse back after divorce?
- The 7th lord's condition. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.5 reads a weak 7th lord, or one in a debilitated or enemy sign, as strain on the spouse and on the marriage 3.
- Malefics in the 7th house. Verse 18.9 reads Saturn, Rahu or Ketu there as describing a difficult partner 3, which many astrologers read as friction rather than fate.
- The navamsha. Many astrologers read the navamsha, the 9th division chart, for married life, and check it against the main chart before judging a reunion.
- Both charts together, if you have your ex-spouse's birth details, to see whether the old points of friction still meet.
- The current dasha for each of you, because the period that ended the marriage may have changed.
What changes the answer when you were married, not just dating?
- Whether there is a decree or only a separation. A pending case or an informal separation leaves different doors open than a final divorce.
- Why the marriage ended. Distance and fights are read differently from cruelty or violence, and violence comes first to the helpline and the law, not to a chart.
- Children. With children, a reunion also changes their lives, and many astrologers read the 5th house too.
- Whether either of you has remarried. A new marriage is a new commitment, and the reading then turns to your own path.
- Your families. In India both families often have a say in a reunion as much as in the first wedding.
How common are divorce and separation in India?
Divorce and separation are rare in India but affect millions. More than 4.2 million women, 4,225,940, were separated or divorced in the 2011 Census, an analysis by C.P. Chandrasekhar and Jayati Ghosh shows 1.
Separation, not divorce, is the main way marriages end. Separation accounts for 63% of all separated and divorced women, often informal and without legal rights 1.
Among ever-married women, about 0.7% were separated and 0.27% divorced in 2011 1. Marital breakdown peaked among women aged 35 to 39, and rural and urban rates were almost the same 1.
Sharing a home makes the loss deeper. In a United States study, couples who lived together or planned to marry had larger drops in life satisfaction after splitting 2.
Where the marriage involved violence, the government's Women Helpline 181 runs 24 hours a day and refers callers to police, hospitals, legal aid and One Stop Centres 4. Dial 112, India's single emergency number, when in danger 4.
A Kismo astrologer can read the marriage houses and the period you are in, and help you think through a reunion. An astrologer cannot advise on custody, maintenance, property or remarriage law; follow your family lawyer on those.
What should I think through before getting back with my ex-spouse?
Getting back with an ex-spouse is a big decision, and a checklist helps you see it whole. A chart reading is one line on it, not the whole list.
- Name the reason the marriage ended, in one sentence, and ask whether it has truly changed.
- If there was violence or threats, speak to the helpline or a lawyer before you meet alone.
- Ask a family lawyer what a reunion means for your decree, maintenance, custody and property.
- Think about the children's lives, school and routines, and how you would explain the change.
- Talk to one family member on each side you trust before telling everyone.
- If you want a reading, take both sets of birth details and both key dates to it.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: A divorce in the chart means you can never remarry the same person.
Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.19 reads an afflicted 7th lord with a barren sign or navamsha as two marriages 3; it does not say who the second spouse must be.
Belief: In India it is mostly wives who walk out of a marriage.
Chandrasekhar and Ghosh note that separation or divorce in India is more often initiated by men, partly because women have fewer options to leave 1.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about getting an ex back?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- What does my 7th house lord show, and how strong is it?
- What does my navamsha show for married life?
- Which dasha was running when we separated, and which one now?
- Do our two charts still show the same points of friction?
- Is this period read as better for repair or for a clean start?
What should I know before booking a session about getting an ex back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
Will my ex husband come back to me after divorce?
Astrology cannot say whether your ex-husband returns after a divorce, because that is his choice and yours. An astrologer can read your 7th house, its lord, Venus and navamsha, and the period you are in now. Many use this to talk about whether the time suits repair or a clean start.
Can divorced couples get back together and remarry in India?
Yes, in general a divorced couple can marry each other again, but the steps depend on the law that governed your marriage and on whether any appeal is pending. A family lawyer can tell you exactly what is needed, including a fresh marriage and registration. An astrologer is not the right person for the legal part.
Which planets in a kundli show divorce and the chance of reuniting?
No single planet shows divorce or reunion. Astrologers read the 7th house and its lord, malefics such as Saturn, Rahu or Ketu there, and Venus, then check the navamsha. They also look at the dasha running when the marriage broke and the one running now.
Is it possible to get back together if we are separated but not yet divorced?
A separation without a decree often leaves more room to talk than a final divorce, both legally and in families. Whether you reunite depends on both of you. An astrologer can read your current period, and a counsellor or mediator can help you both talk without a court in the middle.
My ex-husband was violent and now wants to come back. What should I do?
Put your safety first, before any reading. Call 181, the women helpline, for advice and referrals, or 112 if you are in danger now. A lawyer can explain protection orders. Promises to change after violence are common; decide with support around you, not alone.
Is there a puja that can reunite me with my ex-spouse?
No ritual can make an ex-spouse return, and no one can promise a puja does. Some families choose simple prayers or fasts for their own peace; those are personal choices. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual. On Kismo, pressure or requests for money outside the app are handled by a person.
How much does a reading about my divorce cost on Kismo?
A reading about your divorce on Kismo costs the astrologer's per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, for chat or call. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages. Your first session has 5 free minutes, and unused wallet money stays for later.
Talk to an astrologer about getting an ex back
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Where do these facts come from?
- Marital Breakdown in India (C.P. Chandrasekhar and Jayati Ghosh, first published in Business Line, 27 February 2017), Macroscan. Accessed .
- Breaking up is hard to do: The impact of unmarried relationship dissolution on mental health and life satisfaction (Rhoades et al., Journal of Family Psychology, 2011), PubMed Central, US National Library of Medicine. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: the 7th house, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- India's Commitment to Women's Safety (29 March 2025), Press Information Bureau, Government of India. Accessed .
