My ex got engaged to someone else: what can an astrologer tell me now?
When your ex is engaged, the honest reading is about your own marriage timing and healing, because the engagement is a decision two other people and their families have made.
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My ex got engaged two months after we broke up. His family arranged it. I can't stop thinking about him. What does my chart say about my marriage?
I am sorry, this is a hard moment. His engagement is his family's and his decision, so let us look at your path. Please share your birth date, time and place. I start with your 7th lord, its dasha and where Jupiter moves in the coming year.
Short answer
When your ex gets engaged to someone else, no astrologer can say the engagement breaks or that your ex returns, and none should try to stop the wedding. In Vedic astrology the useful reading is your own: your 7th house, its lord's dasha and the transits that many astrologers use to time your marriage. Kismo astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.
What are the key facts about ex coming back?
| Answer | |
|---|---|
| The situation | Your ex is engaged to someone else, often months or even weeks after your breakup |
| What the reading is about | Your own marriage timing, healing and next steps |
| What an astrologer checks | Your 7th lord and its dasha, Venus, Jupiter's transit from your Moon |
| What it should never do | Promise the engagement breaks, or offer rituals against your ex or the fiancé |
| What to bring | Your birth date, exact birth time and birth place |
| Session on Kismo | From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad |
What does an astrologer check in my chart after my ex gets engaged?
- The period of your 7th lord. Phaladeepika chapter 20, sloka 8, reads a strong 7th lord's dasha as a time of weddings and family celebrations 5.
- Yogas for the age of marriage. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra chapter 18, verses 22 to 34, gives combinations of Venus and the 7th lord that point to an age of marriage 4.
- Jupiter's movement from your Moon. Phaladeepika chapter 26, sloka 2, counts the 2nd, 5th, 7th, 9th and 11th from the Moon as good places for Jupiter 6.
- Obstruction of that transit. Sloka 7 of the same chapter says Jupiter's good transit holds only when its vedha houses, such as the 12th, 8th and 3rd, are free of other planets 6.
- How you are coping now. Many astrologers ask about sleep, work and family support before talking about timing, because the reading should help, not deepen the hurt.
What changes the answer when my ex is engaged, not just dating?
- An engagement involves families. In India an engagement is often arranged and celebrated by both families, so the decision is wider than your ex alone.
- How soon after your breakup it happened. An engagement within weeks often follows family pressure that started before the breakup, which a reading of your chart cannot change.
- Whether your ex still reaches out. An engaged ex who messages you is asking you to hold a secret; a counsellor can help you decide whether to reply at all.
- What you ask. Asking when your own marriage comes gets a real reading; asking how to break the engagement is a question many astrologers refuse.
Why do so many exes in India get engaged soon after a breakup?
Many young Indians date against the wishes of the people around them. A Lokniti-CSDS survey of 6,122 Indians aged 15 to 34 in 19 states found 53% disapprove of dating before marriage 2. The same survey found 36% call inter-caste marriage completely wrong 2.
Family views on caste weigh on whom people marry. Pew Research Center surveyed 29,999 Indian adults in 2019 and 2020, and 64% said it is very important to stop women in their community marrying into another caste 3. For men, the share was 62% 3.
| Survey finding | Share | Source |
|---|---|---|
| Young Indians who disapprove of dating before marriage | 53% | Lokniti-CSDS, 2017 2 |
| Young Indians who call inter-caste marriage completely wrong | 36% | Lokniti-CSDS, 2017 2 |
| Adults who say stopping women's inter-caste marriage is very important | 64% | Pew Research Center, 2021 3 |
| Adults who say the same for men | 62% | Pew Research Center, 2021 3 |
Speed is not always about family. In research summarised by psychologist Theresa DiDonato, people driven by revenge tended to start new relationships faster after a breakup 1. People with a secure attachment style also tended to move on faster, so a quick engagement can mean very different things 1.
An astrologer can help you look at your own timing for marriage and the months ahead. An astrologer cannot tell you why your ex said yes, and should not offer to change it.
How do I get through the months after my ex's engagement?
The first week
Mute or unfollow your ex and the fiancé so the photos stop reaching you, and tell one trusted person how you feel.
The first month
Keep sleep, food and work steady. If you cannot, speak to a counsellor or doctor rather than waiting it out alone.
Around the wedding date
Plan that day with friends or family. Many people find the date itself harder than the engagement news.
After three months
Look at your own wishes for marriage again. This is when a chart reading about your timing tends to be most useful.
What do people get wrong about this?
Belief: If the engagement was arranged quickly, my ex must still love me and is only being forced.
A quick engagement can follow family pressure, revenge or simply readiness, and research links fast new relationships with very different motives 1. Only your ex knows why.
Belief: Engagements in my ex's chart can be broken with the right ritual.
No classical text describes a rite to undo another person's engagement. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra's marriage verses describe timing in a person's own chart, not ways to change someone else's 4.
Before you pay anyone
How do you know an astrologer is genuine?
- Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
- Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
- Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
- On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.
Which astrologers can I talk to about ex coming back?
How does a consultation on Kismo work?
- Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
- Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
- Share your date, time and place of birth.
- Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.
Questions worth asking in the session
- Which dasha and antardasha in my chart do astrologers read for marriage?
- Is Jupiter moving through a good house from my Moon in the next year?
- What does my 7th lord show about the partner I am likely to meet?
- How can I use the next few months well, according to my chart?
What should I know before booking a session about ex coming back?
| Question | Answer |
|---|---|
| What does a session cost? | Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026). |
| Is the first session free? | 5 free minutes on the first session, no card. |
| Chat or call? | Both. You choose when you start the session. |
| Do I need an exact birth time? | It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you. |
| Is my chat private? | Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy. |
| What if I am not happy? | There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person. |
| Where does it work? | Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries. |
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Questions people ask
My ex got engaged months after our breakup. Will he come back to me?
No one can promise that an engaged ex comes back, and hoping for the engagement to break keeps you stuck. Your ex and two families have made a decision. An astrologer can read your own 7th house and dasha to talk about your marriage timing, which is the part of the story that is yours.
Why did my ex get engaged so fast after we broke up?
An ex can get engaged fast for many reasons: family pressure that began earlier, a wish to prove something, or real readiness to marry. Research summarised by psychologist Theresa DiDonato links revenge and secure attachment alike with moving on quickly. Only your ex knows the reason, and it does not measure your worth.
My ex is engaged but still messages me. What should I do?
Think carefully before replying to an engaged ex who still messages you. Replying can keep you waiting and hides something from the fiancé. Tell your ex clearly what you are and are not willing to do, or stop replying. A counsellor can help if the messages keep pulling you back.
Can an astrologer tell me when I will get married after my ex's engagement?
An astrologer can read the timing factors for your marriage, but cannot give a certain date. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra links Venus and the 7th lord with the age of marriage, and many astrologers also read the 7th lord's dasha and Jupiter's transit. Treat the answer as a window to watch, not a promise.
How do I book a reading on Kismo about my marriage timing after this?
On Kismo you pick a verified Vedic astrologer and start a chat or call, from anywhere in India or abroad. Each astrologer sets one rate, from ₹15 a minute, and the first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.
Someone offered to break my ex's engagement with a ritual. Is that safe?
No, an offer to break someone's engagement is a red flag, and it ignores your ex's and the fiancé's own choices. Rituals sold this way usually ask for more money each time. On Kismo, pressure or requests for money outside the app go to a person who handles misconduct. Get a second opinion before paying for any ritual.
Is it normal to feel this bad when my ex is getting married?
Yes, feeling crushed when an ex gets engaged or married is very common, even long after the breakup. The news makes the end feel final. Lean on people you trust and keep a simple daily routine. If you cannot sleep, eat or work for weeks, see a counsellor or doctor.
Talk to an astrologer about ex coming back
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Where do these facts come from?
- Can a Rebound Relationship Be the Real Deal? (on Brumbaugh and Fraley, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 2014), Psychology Today (Theresa E. DiDonato, Ph.D.). Accessed .
- Young Indians are homophobic, misogynist and orthodox, says CSDS survey (Lokniti-CSDS and KAS youth survey), The News Minute. Accessed .
- Religion in India: Tolerance and Segregation, Pew Research Center. Accessed .
- Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra, chapter 18: the 7th house, verses 22-34, Enjoy Learning Sanskrit. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 20: dasas of the bhava lords (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
- Phaladeepika by Mantreswara, chapter 26: transits of planets (tr. V. Subrahmanya Sastri, 1950), Wisdom Library. Accessed .
