Getting an ex back

Just broke up and want your ex back? Talk to an astrologer about the weeks ahead

In the first days after a breakup, the most useful reading is about your own period and how to steady yourself before deciding anything about your ex.

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My boyfriend ended things four days ago after a big fight. I can't stop crying. Is this breakup temporary or final?

I'm sorry you're going through this. Please share your birth date, time and place and the date of the fight. I'll look at the period you're in and what your 7th house shows about conflict, then we can talk it through.

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Short answer

Right after a breakup, no chart can tell you whether your ex comes back, because that is their decision. An astrologer can read the antardasha you are in, what your 7th house shows about conflict, and whether this period suits reaching out or stepping back. On Kismo, verified Vedic astrologers read your chart by chat or call, online from anywhere.

Key facts

What are the key facts about getting an ex back?

	Answer
The situation	A breakup in the last few days or weeks, with feelings still raw
What an astrologer reads first	The antardasha running now, malefics in the 7th house, and Venus
What changes the answer	Who ended it, why, how long you were together, and whether you still talk
What it cannot answer	What your ex feels today or decides next
What to bring	Your birth date, exact time and place, and the date of the breakup
Session on Kismo	From ₹15 a minute, 5 free minutes in the first session, online from anywhere in India and abroad

What gets checked

What does an astrologer check right after a breakup?

The antardasha running now and the date it ends. Astrologers time a fresh breakup by the sub-period, because Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra makes Vimshottari the main timing system ⁵.
Saturn and Mars in the 7th house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 18.11 links them, with the 7th lord tied to them, to discord at home ⁴.
Venus joined with a malefic. Verse 18.3 of the same chapter reads Venus or the 7th lord with a malefic as harm to the partner ⁴. Many astrologers soften this to strain in the bond.
The 2nd house. Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra 32.32 also treats the 2nd house, the house of family and speech, as a spouse significator ⁶. Harsh words in a fight are read from here.
The breakup itself. The date, who ended it and the reason given help the astrologer match the chart to what happened.

Your situation

What changes the answer when the breakup is only days or weeks old?

Who ended it. If your ex ended it, the reading turns to your own healing and timing. If you ended it and regret it, the astrologer reads whether this period suits an honest apology.
Why it ended. A single fight is read very differently from cheating, abuse or a family veto, and the last two need a counsellor or family conversation more than a chart. If you face threats or violence, call Women Helpline 181, or 112 in an emergency ⁸.
How long you were together. A few months and several years carry different weight, and many astrologers ask before judging the 7th house.
Whether you are still in touch. Daily messages, silence or a block each change what an astrologer suggests for the next weeks.

What people go through

What happens to people in the first weeks after a breakup?

The first weeks after a breakup are measurably hard. In a study of 1,295 unmarried adults aged 18 to 35 in the United States, 36.5% had at least one breakup over 20 months ¹.

After the breakup, distress went up and life satisfaction went down ¹. In 43.4% of breakups, well-being fell by more than half a standard deviation, a drop large enough to notice in daily life ¹.

Some things made the fall bigger. Living together and having plans to marry went with larger drops in life satisfaction, while starting to date someone new went with smaller ones ¹.

Feelings also swing more right after a split. A study that paged 58 young adults at random for 28 days found more emotional ups and downs after a breakup, especially at the start ².

Fear can steer the next step. University of Toronto research found that a stronger fear of being single predicts settling for less in relationships, in men and women alike ³. That is worth knowing before going back out of panic.

A Kismo astrologer can read your current period and talk through the next weeks with you. An astrologer cannot treat grief or anxiety: if you cannot eat, sleep or work, see a doctor or counsellor too.

The first month

What should I do in the first month after a breakup?

The first month after a breakup is about steadying yourself before any big move. Many astrologers suggest waiting out the first rush before asking them anything about a return.

First 3 days
Sleep, eat and tell one person you trust. Avoid sending long messages to your ex in the middle of the night.
First week
Write down what happened and why, in your own words. This is what an astrologer or counsellor needs from you later.
Weeks 2 to 4
If you want a reading, book it now, with your exact birth time and the breakup date ready.
After a month
Decide with a calmer mind whether to reach out, wait or move on, and respect any answer your ex has already given.

Myths and facts

What do people get wrong about this?

Belief: Some people are just the type who always go back to an ex.

A 2019 study of 211 adults by René Dailey's team found no particular type of person who ends up in on-off relationships ⁷. Those in them did report lower satisfaction and more doubt about commitment ⁷.

Belief: A chart can say on which day your ex reaches out.

Brihat Parashara Hora Shastra builds timing on dasha periods ⁵, which run for months and years, not days. A reading that names one exact day goes beyond that method.

Before you pay anyone

How do you know an astrologer is genuine?

Every Kismo astrologer passes four steps: qualification review, panel interview, live audits of real sessions, 30-day probation.
Nobody can guarantee an outcome. Treat any promise of a fixed result as a red flag.
Never pay for an expensive puja or ritual under pressure. Get a second opinion first.
On Kismo you only pay for the minutes you use; misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside the app is handled by a person.

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How it works

How does a consultation on Kismo work?

Log in on kismo.app or get the app from Google Play.
Pick an astrologer who speaks your language and works with your question.
Share your date, time and place of birth.
Ask by chat or call. The first session carries 5 free minutes, then each minute is billed from your wallet.

Questions worth asking in the session

Which antardasha am I in, and when does it change?
Do Saturn or Mars sit in my 7th house, and what does that mean for fights?
Does this period suit reaching out, or giving it time?
What does my chart show about how I handle a breakup?
Is there anything in my own hands for the next few weeks?

Before you book

What should I know before booking a session about getting an ex back?

Question	Answer
What does a session cost?	Each astrologer sets one rate for chat and call, from ₹15 a minute. A 10-minute session at ₹15 a minute costs ₹150 (October 2026).
Is the first session free?	5 free minutes on the first session, no card.
Chat or call?	Both. You choose when you start the session.
Do I need an exact birth time?	It helps. Without one an astrologer can still read your Moon sign and planets by sign, or work out the time with you.
Is my chat private?	Your chat is not shown to other clients. How Kismo handles your data is set out in its privacy policy at kismo.app/privacy.
What if I am not happy?	There is no refund for a reading you did not like. Misconduct, pressure or a request for money outside Kismo is handled by a person.
Where does it work?	Online, from anywhere in India and abroad. People use Kismo from 80+ countries.

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FAQ

Questions people ask

My boyfriend broke up with me last week. Is it too early to ask an astrologer?

No, it is not too early, but many astrologers prefer you wait a few days until the first shock settles. A reading in the first week is most useful for your own period and next steps. A question about whether he returns is better asked once you can describe calmly what happened.

Why did he break up with me if he still loves me?

He may still care and still have ended it, because love alone does not settle doubts about the future; only he knows his reasons. Wanting him back right after a breakup is very common. Research on breakups finds emotions swing hardest at the start, and the pull toward the old relationship is part of that. That pull is a feeling, not yet a decision, and it often changes over the first weeks.

Should I text my ex the day after we broke up?

Usually not, if the message is driven by panic or late-night pain. Many people regret what they send in the first days. Write the message, wait a day or two, and reread it. If you still want to send it, keep it short and respectful, and accept whatever answer comes back.

Will he come back after the breakup? Can an astrologer tell?

No astrologer can say for certain whether he comes back or the breakup is temporary, because that depends on two people's choices. What an astrologer can read is whether your current antardasha is one many astrologers link to separation or to repair. Treat that as context for your own decision, not as a verdict.

What should I tell the astrologer about my breakup?

Tell the astrologer your birth date, exact time and place, the date of the breakup, how long you were together and who ended it. Say briefly why it ended and whether you are still in contact. These details let the astrologer match your chart to what happened instead of guessing.

How much does a short breakup reading cost on Kismo?

A breakup reading on Kismo costs the astrologer's per-minute rate, from ₹15 a minute, billed per started minute from your wallet. Your first session carries 5 free minutes with no card needed. Kismo is an app where you talk to verified Vedic astrologers by chat or call, in 16 languages.

An astrologer says someone did black magic to cause my breakup. Should I believe it?

Be very careful: a claim of black magic, followed by an offer to remove it for money, is a common pressure tactic. No one can prove such a cause or promise a ritual fixes it. Get a second opinion before paying for anything. On Kismo, pressure or requests for money outside the app are handled by a person.

Can I talk to a breakup astrology consultant right now?

Yes, you can talk to an astrologer about your breakup right away on Kismo, by chat or call. The average first reply comes in 9 seconds, and it works online from anywhere in India and abroad. Have your birth details ready so the astrologer can start reading your chart at once.